- Apr 11, 2015
My girlfriend of 6 months becomes anxious if we spend too many days in a row together. We seem to run into the same problem ever six weeks, we space more time, things go great and then back to the same problem too much time together. Is this really anxiety? She takes doctor prescription meds for panic attacks on a regular basis to help her at work to avoid a panic attack. I don't mind giving her her space but I think she needs to be the one in control of cutting off time together bc I obviously keep missing the signs until it's too late. Then next I know she in the middle of anxiety that she can't control or get free from. She becomes very anxious and becomes an emotionally unhappy person. The hardest part is she can't pinpoint anything that brings it on, and then we're both unhappy. Bc she becomes so distant and unhappy but it's so gradual that it's very hard to see its happened until after the fact. When things are good they're great, we agree its the best relationship we both ever had besides these lows, (we're in our mid 30s). She has a very busy life w her kids and her job. I get that she is busy and go with the flow of whatever her day is. Things are going great for approximately 6 weeks and bam out of the blue we have this problem. She says she feels like we're both getting a bad deal when it happens but she can't control it. So we're thinking of calling it quits. I don't want that at all but today we both agree we can't keep going through this, it's not good for either of us. I feel worse for her, it last for days. I feel confused and hurt and so does she. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.