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Too Much Pressure At Work, can't do it anymore!

Jojojabini21

Jojojabini21

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Hi,

My main line manager at work has been away for two weeks and although I've still been struggling, my supportive team and the rest of the management committee still active have been wonderful and making my life as easy as possible.
Today is the first day my line manager has been back and although today is my day off she sent me an email which has totally sent my head into a complete spin and I really don't think I can continue to work there.

The email as usual pointed out all my flaws, what I'd forgotten, how much work she has to catch up on and a load of stuff I have previously had discussions about with the other head of management, or things I wasn't even aware I had to do, one thing going back two months ago just before Christmas.

I am a bar manager and it is probably the most complicated place I have ever worked. Not a day goes by where she doesn't put me down and make me feel useless at my job, although I know I am very good at it and if my work tasks had ever been taken any notice of it would make my job a lot less complicated.

I constantly feel like a punchbag when she is in a bad mood or not had a good day. She snaps and me and speaks to me as though I am just a lowly servant.

I am so fed up of it and my head just can't deal with it anymore although I'm not really sure who to complain to as complaints go through her or the other main manager that made me feel guilty about visiting my dad. They've treated me going like it was some sort of holiday, not actually to care and spend time with my terminally ill dad that lives 200 miles away.

I'm so upset I wanted to send an email back saying I quit, I'd had enough!
My husband and supportive staff and other members have told me to just calm down and try and rise above it but what they don't really understand is I'm at total breaking point and feel like I'm going mad! I don't know if I'm depressed or part suffering from undiagnosed Bipolar. I can't focus or concentrate and life seems to be laying heavier everyday I wake up, I can't breathe or move without fear of something bad going to happen. I want to just stay in bed or clean my heart out in my own little zone but at the same time disappearing into thin air would be a great idea. I want to do so many things but I'm so frazzled right now I just can't do anything.

I know my manager mentally bullies me and I've been reading up on the ways to deal with it but I'm so menatlly drained right now I can't put anything into an order although I really want to.

I'm tired of my head telling me to give up and then telling me I've got to fight, I wish I could rip myself in two so I could do both but right now don't feel I can do either.

Massively just want to cry and shut out the world!

Sorry for the rant but am so at the end of everything!:confused::confused:
 
Gajolene

Gajolene

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No job is worth your health, mental, physical or nutritional. You need to put yourself your health and your happiness first always. Wish I could say more just sending huge hugs. I've been through it too, a few times. It completely drains your health in so many ways. I myself chose to leave those places of employment. Even when it meant moving and downsizing. Just my opinion on it.
 
Jojojabini21

Jojojabini21

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Joined
Feb 5, 2016
Messages
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Location
South West UK
No job is worth your health, mental, physical or nutritional. You need to put yourself your health and your happiness first always. Wish I could say more just sending huge hugs. I've been through it too, a few times. It completely drains your health in so many ways. I myself chose to leave those places of employment. Even when it meant moving and downsizing. Just my opinion on it.
Hey.
Thank you.
I'm pretty sure I need to leave, or at least leave until the main abusers of my health and happiness leave. I love my job and it upsets me so much that I'm constantly trodden on and although I've tried wring letters and emails nothing has been done to solve anything. I have done everything asked of me and stressed myself out trying to walk on eggshells but there always seems to be more, never ending.
I should really go back to the drs, I don't know, all the time I know I have to go back I'm going to suffer, although I need to find something to put in it's place.
Thanks for replying xx
 
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Crazy Lady In Stanton

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Stanton, CA
Definitely look for another job. Once you get a new job, you can quit the old one with glee.
 
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