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Today has been a disaster

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parasiempre16

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Dec 1, 2018
Messages
5
Hello everyone,

A bit of background to my mental health issues. I used to date this girl for 5 years, she recently broke up with me and has become very close to a mutual friend of ours. We were 16 when we first started dating, and we currently live together. One of the things that I regret most about our relationship is when I cheated on her. I was an immature arsehole back then. And I honestly regret it still, Every. Damn. Day. However, she chose to forgive me, which is now 5 years ago. I haven’t been amazing since, I’ve done many things wrong, I regret them all deeply every single day.

Matters took a turn for the worse today, because we naturally are still very close, well I assumed so anyway, but lately she’s been ignoring me, and excluding me increasingly. Which has led to me feeling lonely. When I confided in her, she agreed to changing some things to make me feel better. However, she hasn’t really. Naturally I ask about her and our mutual friend because I just want to know if they started dating or whatever because I don’t want to hope for something which isn’t going to happen.

We had a massive argument today, she brought up everything I’d ever done in the past and got very angry with me when I started to get upset by this. She called me manipulative because I couldn’t hide my emotions. She said I was attention seeking for self-harming. I don’t know what to do. I have signed a contract with her for next year as well, before it all got so bad. I don’t know if I can pull out of the contract, or more importantly if I should. I feel very lost inside.
 
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jonathancruik

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Joined
Dec 3, 2018
Messages
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sorry to hear that mate. What I would need in this situation is space. You have been together for so long, of course you want to know what is going on. but you need to be respectful toward her and yourself... learn to be along first. if you cant love yourself how are you gonna love somebody else. what do you think
 
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