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anyone ?

I'm good at going through sad feelings, maybe painful feelings
until it gets to anger

I think I just push the anger back down
feeling its not safe to feel it

well now I'm improving my diet
there is nothing to push it aside with !

any suggestions ?

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I would have to say that feeling my anger (finally!) was probably the turning point in my recovery. It was appropriate and empowering and necessary. It is one of the most basic emotions and I find it interesting that our culture actually encourages us to suppress it. So I don't know why you're so uncomfortable with it but really asking yourself that question might be a good start.
 
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I think I'm uncomfortable with it
because I have old resentments from the past
and if I let the anger out
the other person is getting blasted with some of that
which they didnt deserve
 
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I don't know for certain but i would think sugar levels going up and down won't help.
 
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I think I'm uncomfortable with it
because I have old resentments from the past
and if I let the anger out
the other person is getting blasted with some of that
which they didnt deserve
Can you feel your anger without blasting this person? Also, I find it interesting that you say they don't deserve your anger. Does that mean they hurt you unintentionally?
 
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Physical violence towards an object such as 'punching bag or pillow.
 
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Finding activities that relieve stress and raise endorphins like exercise or cleaning.
 
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Mary im not talking about one person

im not alone in suppressing my anger

doesnt matter what the other person has done or does
if they get blasted with old resentments
that are nothing to do with them
then they didnt deserve what they got

their own relationship with anger and guilt and resentment
is also their responsibility and not about me

so each of us in our own lane so to speak
 
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Quite simply maybe not for everyone though, whenever I get angry I just remember anger leads to nothing and so I forget my anger and move on accepting that it was just a spike in emotion. I also like to think about happy things that make me laugh or feel joy :) I hope you find a solution
 
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Mary im not talking about one person

im not alone in suppressing my anger

doesnt matter what the other person has done or does
if they get blasted with old resentments
that are nothing to do with them
then they didnt deserve what they got

their own relationship with anger and guilt and resentment
is also their responsibility and not about me

so each of us in our own lane so to speak

I hear you. xx
 
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Talking to someone who is good at empathising with people who are angry usually works for me...my husband is good at that when it is other people making me angry.
 
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doesnt matter what the other person has done or does
if they get blasted with old resentments
that are nothing to do with them
then they didnt deserve what they got
You're not alone struggling with this. I have difficulty remaining mindful of the words coming outta my mouth when I'm angry. Often, the other person hasn't done me some great wrong. But as you observe, it's like an old tape is playing -- an historical argument or fight I'm having with somebody who ain't even there. Unresolved, it continues to seep into my relationships.

What is helping me express historical anger:
Writing -- especially poetry.
Re-learning how to cry when I feel so damn frustrated and powerless.
 
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thankyou Bizzarebitrary

its very helpful to share that with you

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