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gurl2134

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I was watching this show and they were discussing breaking up. It got me in my head. I’m not always 100% happy every time I see my boyfriend, I get bored sometimes, and it scares me. Does that mean I don’t want to be with my boyfriend anymore. Does it mean I don’t love him? I have ocd and I get unwanted thoughts. I feel like I’m obsessing over these thoughts and reading too far into them.
 
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I would think this through. Being a little bored isn't the end of the world is it? Make a list of all you like about him and things you don't. Be honest and fair in the lists. If he is just boring then ask what you can suggest you both do to spice things up a bit. Does he take you out? Do you do anything unusual occasionally? If not then why don't you suggest something to him. It could be that he just needs a little push in the right direction. I mean it could be that he is being careful around you not to upset you with anything??
 
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I was watching this show and they were discussing breaking up. It got me in my head. I’m not always 100% happy every time I see my boyfriend, I get bored sometimes, and it scares me. Does that mean I don’t want to be with my boyfriend anymore. Does it mean I don’t love him? I have ocd and I get unwanted thoughts. I feel like I’m obsessing over these thoughts and reading too far into them.
Hello. I've been married for 15 yrs to my bestie. I actually have a voice that doesn't like him and will pick fights and so on. I often get in my own head about our relationship. Just about a month ago he finally got ALL the way on board with my illness ( I've had these symptoms all of the 15 yrs). I knew that if he didn't I had to leave because my voices, anxieties, delusions, paranoia would ruin us! I opened completely up, again, set strict boundaries and constantly remind myself that he does love me and I him no matter what a symptom tells me. I feel its a way for me to hurt him before me or feeling like he deserves better. Or if I'm manic that he's boring. When really, in my case, he is my hero and my symptoms try to ruin that!! I hope this is helpful and your smiling 😁
 
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