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gurl2134

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So I was having these thoughts about that I’m only with my boyfriend because I feel alone otherwise (with my family). And then I told myself no because even if I had to decide between him and someone else I’d still choose him, but then the thought that came up was that I’d still choose him if he is the only one I’ve known for a while, like if I knew someone else longer I’d choose them over him. That thought scares me. Does that mean my feelings for my boyfriend aren’t true? Am I with him for the wrong reasons? I’m scarred I don’t want to loose my boyfriend, he makes me happy and I don’t want to be without him. I keep having these thoughts that if I didn’t have him I’ll get someone else, but I don’t want to think that, I want my boyfriend and only him. I’m scared these bad thoughts mean I shouldn’t be with him. I love my boyfriend so much. Am I just obsessing over my thoughts? Reading into them too much? I have OCD and I get ROCD.
 
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larinafalls

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Hi gurl2134

I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing anxious thoughts about your relationship. Sometimes thoughts can take hold of us but it doesn't mean there's anything to worry about or that anything needs to change. Sometimes it's a good idea to pay attention to when and where these feelings are coming up - do they happen when you're tired or distracted or doing something you don't enjoy for example?

If you are living with OCD then it's likely that this will also be affecting your thoughts about your boyfriend. Are you receiving any support for this?

Take care,
Larina
 
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gurl2134

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Yes my boyfriend know about all of this and he talks me through it. Like I’ll get bad thoughts about how I’m only with him so i can get married not because I love him or anything. But I remind myself how happy I am with him and how I know I want kids with him and everything. So fact checking helps with it. I have a very supportive boyfriend ❤
 
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Dangolf

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So I was having these thoughts about that I’m only with my boyfriend because I feel alone otherwise (with my family). And then I told myself no because even if I had to decide between him and someone else I’d still choose him, but then the thought that came up was that I’d still choose him if he is the only one I’ve known for a while, like if I knew someone else longer I’d choose them over him. That thought scares me. Does that mean my feelings for my boyfriend aren’t true? Am I with him for the wrong reasons? I’m scarred I don’t want to loose my boyfriend, he makes me happy and I don’t want to be without him. I keep having these thoughts that if I didn’t have him I’ll get someone else, but I don’t want to think that, I want my boyfriend and only him. I’m scared these bad thoughts mean I shouldn’t be with him. I love my boyfriend so much. Am I just obsessing over my thoughts? Reading into them too much? I have OCD and I get ROCD.
I understand your doubts. When you have a thought like this with having ocd, you tend to analyze it over and over to see if it is valid. From how you talk of your boyfriend, you sound happy to be with him. This is just a thought that went through your mind in my opinion, and you analyzed it too much as we all tend to do at times. If you love being with him...let go and continue the relationship. Best of luck!
 
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