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Thoughts and help on dating?!?!

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sarah83

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Hi Guys and Gals,
I was wondering if i could have anyone's thoughts or experiences with online dating. I am signed up to 2 different ones and i have chatted to several guys but its never come to nothing.
I know its my mental health that is playing a massive part with social anxiety, and worrying about the meeting up stage. I just want to be able to get to know someone before meeting up.
Would you suggest that when i talk to a guy that i am up front about my mental health. i just don't want to scare anyone off.
I read a study that 74% of people would not start a relationship with someone with mental health problems which has kind of put a doubt on me ever having a relationship ever again.

Any help would be really helpful and gladly received.
Much love to you all.
 
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Dooley

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Hi,
I think it is best to always be honest with people. Online dating is risky as you don't know who you are talking to really as they could be lying. However there are genuine people on there too. I would suggest you be upfront with them. If they are genuine then they will understand and take it from there.
I might met my wife online.
 
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sarah83

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Hi,
I think it is best to always be honest with people. Online dating is risky as you don't know who you are talking to really as they could be lying. However there are genuine people on there too. I would suggest you be upfront with them. If they are genuine then they will understand and take it from there.
I might met my wife online.

Hey Dooley, Thanks for the advice. I want to be honest and upfront but a lot of people are still scared off by mental health and has still got a big stigma around it.
Like you say if they are genuine they will understand, if not they dont they are clearly not the one for me.
How lovely that you meet your wife online, prove that there are success stories.
 
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Dooley

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Hey Dooley, Thanks for the advice. I want to be honest and upfront but a lot of people are still scared off by mental health and has still got a big stigma around it.
Like you say if they are genuine they will understand, if not they dont they are clearly not the one for me.
How lovely that you meet your wife online, prove that there are success stories.
It wasn't a dating agency or online dating. I met her on one of the penpal, E-pal sites. I was chatting to loads from all over the world but only one of them was enjoying chatting to me and having a laugh with, so much so that we were chatting 10 hours a day, didn't really get much sleep either because i was working as a mobile cleaner at the time. But all turned out to be good in the end.
 
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