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"This could be why you're depressed or anxious"

FallingLeaves

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I watched this fantastic Ted Talk about why we could be feeling this way. You can find it here:


It's only 20 minutes long.

It really helped me re-frame my thinking around why I am like this. I'm not broken, I am a human who isn't having their needs met.

Highly recommend.
 
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Sorry me again; he ends by concluding "Depression is not a malfunction, it is a signal. It is trying to tell you something. They are telling us something we really need to hear." - I thought this was hugely powerful.
 
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I have seen Johann Hari's videos before. If you do not mind I might quote this on some other threads. The bit about the giving the depressed man and the gift of a cow (at 4:30mins), I found very interesting among other things.
 
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YES I also thought that was great - I am tempted to buy his book now, he seems so insightful in a non-judgey way.
 
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The words that stuck with me, from this video, were "meaning" and "purpose". I'll add to those, my own Trinity: (a) Company. (b) Common purposes with that company. (c) The outflow of creativity, or group creativity (utterly essential, to the mind - a retro-appetite). I think that this guy is right. Needs not being met...I intend to study this possibility and get myself onto a self-made programme of getting those needs met, being in company, aiming for a common goal and for it to all involve single/group creativity.

Let's face it...we're beggars currently banned from choosing, so we should be ready to try anything that sounds workable...and is comforting to hear about.
 
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I read his book recently. Just stumbled across it at the library. Pretty good.

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Sounds amazing @jajingna - I have had to ban myself from buying more books, but I'll keep it on my list!
 
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i used to love ted talks.
i had a website password but never used it.
i enjoyed it mostly in the class that i was taking.
i think it was at least 4 years ago gosh.

much appreciated ;)
 
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Sorry but I found his talk boring and hardly useful.
 
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I found the guy unlikeable, something fake about him. So I done something I rarely do which is a search. He got canned from a job at a newspaper for plagiarism. There is other stuff about him what is hardly commendable.

But if his book has helped you - that's all that matters.
 
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I gave him another chance but couldn't even get halfway through. Apart from the fact it's blatant PR for his book and paxil. The story about the guy in Cambodia losing his leg in a minefield and being given a cow is pretty stupid.

I actually went to Cambodia in 2002 a year after him, expecting to see scores of folk walking round with an amputated leg. Came across total of one, begging offa foreign tourists outside the central market. Antidepressants were available in pharmacies without a prescription, not a huge selection but they were there and very cheap (for foreigners). Paxil was one of them.

Would you buy a used car off the dude?
 
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I think you might be thinking about this too deeply @fragrant_violet - I was just sharing it in case someone else found it useful like I did. Chill.
 
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Sorry dude, but he said nothing original you cant find in any decent selfhelp book. No need to take it personally 😜

Heres a few which may help you and others. I have read a shitload of trash so these stand out

Hope and Help for your nerves
ACT
DARE
The Anxiety Trick
Feeling Good
Man's Search for Meaning

The final book is very powerful. Far more valuable than the crap the charlatan above spews out
 
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The only good thing about his talk is that it only lasted 20 minutes

Would you want to sit next to him on a long haul flight?
 
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I thought he covered quite a lot in the time available to him. He has also done some talks on addiction. In fact I think all his earlier talks are about addiction. He has a history of drug addicting as well as having a history of depression.

The last two minutes (18:45mins) I found very helpful to me.
 
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