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Thinking that people don't like/love me

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TinyWeeMouse

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When anxiety hits, I believe that people don't like me (my friends) and that my husband is going to leave me (for no reason whatsoever) and that even my kids don't love me. I know this is a lot of nonsense but I just wondered if it's unique to me. Does anyone else ever feel like this? I don't ever feel like I'm not good enough for people but it sometimes surprises me that people like/love me. I know that's a bit of a contradiction.
 
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I feel exactly the same way!
At times I feel like people don’t want to hear from me....even the people I know think the world of me.
If people arrange to do things with me I always think it’s because they’ve got nothing better to do but In reality I know they enjoy my company....same as you, I feel like I’m contradicting myself, It’s bizarre isn’t it? x
 
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I often feel nobody can like/love me ,I have very low self worth but recently I met someone and he has shown me people can love me just the way I am
please don't change ,just be yourself and others will love you xxx
 
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When anxiety hits, I believe that people don't like me (my friends) and that my husband is going to leave me (for no reason whatsoever) and that even my kids don't love me. I know this is a lot of nonsense but I just wondered if it's unique to me. Does anyone else ever feel like this? I don't ever feel like I'm not good enough for people but it sometimes surprises me that people like/love me. I know that's a bit of a contradiction.
Stress does this to me too. It’s called “transient stress-induced paranoia”. So no it’s not just you. But it SUCKS. it’s so hard to shake when you’re in that mindset and you have to like just wait until you’re in your right mind again. My therapist said to just do my best to keep stress to a minimum.
 
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Thanks for your replies and suggestions everyone. Everything is helpful :)
 
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I often feel nobody can like/love me ,I have very low self worth but recently I met someone and he has shown me people can love me just the way I am
please don't change ,just be yourself and others will love you xxx
That's awesome Lucretia! I'm so happy for you.
 
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Thanks. I'm getting better with each day :)
 
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When anxiety hits, I believe that people don't like me (my friends) and that my husband is going to leave me (for no reason whatsoever) and that even my kids don't love me. I know this is a lot of nonsense but I just wondered if it's unique to me. Does anyone else ever feel like this?
It's very common to feel unloved or even unlovable with anxiety or depression. I've particularly noticed that the media (news and entertainment) constantly give us the message that mental health patients are less worthwhile as human beings, so the attitude of society, in general, can have something to do with our feelings about this. Caregivers and people who share house space with us can be (understandably perhaps) frustrated with our illnesses and issues and take it out on us in one way or another. Anyway, that feeling of being unloved is definitely not just something 'in your head'. Personally, I've never felt acceptable since my diagnosis, and I am sure it's why I have agoraphobia.
 
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Thanks for your reply HauntedWitch. I'm sorry to hear about your agoraphobia.
 
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You're not alone. I've lost friends with this due to me avoiding their contact, or not keeping contact because I've been convinced they dont like me, I bore them, I'm just a convenience.

It's the same with family, but it's not as easy to push/pull away from those thankfully.

I just feel hated.
 
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Sorry to hear this ConfusedandAnxious. Hope things start to improve for you.
 
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When anxiety hits, I believe that people don't like me (my friends) and that my husband is going to leave me (for no reason whatsoever) and that even my kids don't love me. I know this is a lot of nonsense but I just wondered if it's unique to me. Does anyone else ever feel like this? I don't ever feel like I'm not good enough for people but it sometimes surprises me that people like/love me. I know that's a bit of a contradiction.
i feel like that at times, though not husband or kids simply cause i dont have husband or kids :hug:

for me its part of my bpd :cry:
 
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