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Thinking people are subliminally insulting me?

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spacingspaces

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Okay so i have really bad self image issues. My self image issues are so bad that i can't even talk to a therapist about them as i'm afraid they will say something i won't like. (which has happened in the past when i tried to open up about them). People tell me i'm good looking and stuff and a part of me believes that i am but another part of me absolutely hates how i look. It's really complex and hard to explain. Anyways, i always seem to feel like people are subliminally insulting my appearance. I have this thing where i feel like i look like a gypsie (a gypsie in ireland is way different then america, etc. Its not a good thing to look like. If you're american then think looking inbred..etc). I feel like i look like that and everywhere i go i seem to hear at least one person use the word gypsie or other variables of the word around me and i'm like 90% sure they are aiming at me because i hear it used around me all the time and a few weeks ago i was out with my friend and some drunk guy was walking past with his friend and said something like "i'll throw that gypsie throw that window" and turned around and looked in my direction. On that night out there was actual gypsies i think who were tryna start fights with people so maybe he was talking about them? ugh i dont know it drives me crazy and i cant tell if im right or wrong.
 
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I get the same thing but everyone is calling me gay or derogatory words to that effect. Has just about done my head in. I don't identify as gay but everyone keeps calling me gay abusive words. Don't really know if this is psychosis or reality either way it sucks to be me.
 
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I get the same thing but everyone is calling me gay or derogatory words to that effect. Has just about done my head in. I don't identify as gay but everyone keeps calling me gay abusive words. Don't really know if this is psychosis or reality either way it sucks to be me.
Are you diagnosed with anything? I'm diagnosed with anxiety but working with a psychiatrist to see if there is anything else. Yeah i know what you mean by not being able to tell if it's reality or not.
 
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Yeah I have schizophrenia and cod. Maybe alot of it's in my head, but like I say seems pretty real. I get around feeling afraid I'm going to be attacked, it's not good.
 
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Yeah I have schizophrenia and cod. Maybe alot of it's in my head, but like I say seems pretty real. I get around feeling afraid I'm going to be attacked, it's not good.
Sorry you have to go through that. I cover my ears a lot when i feel like someones gonna subliminally insult me.
 
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I have schizophrenia. The way I deal with my voices insulting me or when I think others are projecting there insults subliminally is I agree with them and laugh. I find it invalidates the thought process. Usually then I will be hit with a different insult "murderer" or "evil" and again I just agree. Whats the worst that can happen. I know that I am not a murderer or evil so I have learned not to be upset by the thought insertion.

I have hundreds of thoughts from others when I am really ill all day and night. By challenging them I have made me stronger and the upper hand with my illness.

Its hard to do but once you start you will find it gets easier.
 
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I have schizophrenia. The way I deal with my voices insulting me or when I think others are projecting there insults subliminally is I agree with them and laugh. I find it invalidates the thought process. Usually then I will be hit with a different insult "murderer" or "evil" and again I just agree. Whats the worst that can happen. I know that I am not a murderer or evil so I have learned not to be upset by the thought insertion.

I have hundreds of thoughts from others when I am really ill all day and night. By challenging them I have made me stronger and the upper hand with my illness.

Its hard to do but once you start you will find it gets easier.
I'm starting to wonder if i have a mild form of schizophrenia. I'm seeing a psychiatrist in a few days so i will discuss this with them. My "paranoid" thoughts usually always surround my appearance (thinking people are insulting my appearance subliminally). I guess it makes sense since i care about my appearance more than i should.
 
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I feel this based off a history of it you and must have a bad sample size of experiences which lead us to think the next person is the same. Its wrong to think like that but understandable over time it will gradually change but remember to also go with your instinct dont always give them the benefit of the doubt. Sorry for this generic answer but its about finding the balance for going with instinct and giving the benefit of the doubt i most go with instinct but depending on who the person is to me then some leeway for the benefit of the doubt
 
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We have tradespeople working in the backyard. I can here them make derogatory remarks about me all day. When I go down the street feel everyone is against me. Having a real bad time. Going to the shrink on wednesday, I am getting a tad desperate because I feel like hitting the turps big time.
 
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We have tradespeople working in the backyard. I can here them make derogatory remarks about me all day. When I go down the street feel everyone is against me. Having a real bad time. Going to the shrink on wednesday, I am getting a tad desperate because I feel like hitting the turps big time.
If you hit the booze it will make you feel worse. Talk to your shrink and they can help you come up with a better coping mechanism. The thoughts are most likely not real. I have to tell myself this too. Think about it. Do you go around subliminally insulting people? Probably not. So what makes everyone else do it and not you? I don't go around subliminally insulting people either. I think most people don't do that.
 
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