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LORD BURT

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I would quite like to work at a funeral business. It would suit me and my interest in death.
 
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I work in an office.

I find it ok, but it can be stressful sometimes. I only work four days which helps me a lot. I find this time to unwind keeps me going and means I can look after my flat properly.

I hope you can find a job that suits you.
 
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I hope the best for you, Burt. If anyone deserves for things to work out for them, it is you.
 
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I am slightly calmer today knowing that I have a plan to quit. still stressful though. I am glad it is Friday. my dad came round last night. I told him I was suicidal and he told me to stuff the job
 
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Yeah, if it's not working out, I agree with your dad.

At least you've done it, and now got a better idea of what you want to do, so you've gained a huge amount from it.

Hopefully, as you say, now you have a plan and know it won't last, it should hugely reduce the stress :)
 
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Yeah, if it's not working out, I agree with your dad.

At least you've done it, and now got a better idea of what you want to do, so you've gained a huge amount from it.

Hopefully, as you say, now you have a plan and know it won't last, it should hugely reduce the stress :)
Thanks M. Yeah it has been too stressy for me. I feel stressed when I am at home about it. I am really tempted to just get a sick note, and not work any of my notice. I check the .gov website, and they still have to pay me. I know it is not professional, but I am past caring now.

The only thing is, is that boss will be away, and I am the only one who can monitor the system for faults. IDK. The other option is to work while boss is on holiday and then leave before he comes back. I am too scared to confront my boss, and I know its dumb, but I just can't face him.
 
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Burt do what makes you feel best. Get a sick note from the doctor and leave them too it. Your own wellbeing is what matters.
 
LORD BURT

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that's what I would like to do funnyday.
 
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If you are finding it that stressful, then I would find the quickest way out - there's no real benefit in trying to tough it out. There will always be opportunities to start again once you feel stronger x
 
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As a new starter, does the 6 week notice still come into play burt?

I want you to be well and out of there, but also consider the best way out, as this may be a reference in new jobs that do suit you.

I can't imagine that you need to give 6 weeks notice as a new starter, but without knowing more, I can't say.

If it is, then I would look to what you said about put notice in now, see what happens - they might actually say you can go now (they will ask why you notice, and you can say unhappy, and nothing more) - saving all the hassle and stress of doc's notes etc. If they don't, then perhaps go for the option of going to docs.

I think should consider all options. And work out best and least stressful.

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Try not to stress about it now burt.

The good thing is you've decided, and on top of this, gained huge knowledge on what you want (hours wise, jobs wise AND what you missed). All this is great info for the future, I think :)
 
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As a new starter, does the 6 week notice still come into play burt?

I want you to be well and out of there, but also consider the best way out, as this may be a reference in new jobs that do suit you.

I can't imagine that you need to give 6 weeks notice as a new starter, but without knowing more, I can't say.

If it is, then I would look to what you said about put notice in now, see what happens - they might actually say you can go now (they will ask why you notice, and you can say unhappy, and nothing more) - saving all the hassle and stress of doc's notes etc. If they don't, then perhaps go for the option of going to docs.

I think should consider all options. And work out best and least stressful.

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Try not to stress about it now burt.

The good thing is you've decided, and on top of this, gained huge knowledge on what you want (hours wise, jobs wise AND what you missed). All this is great info for the future, I think :)
I have pretty much decided that I will get a sick note, it just depends on how long I work for.

Boss is on leave for three weeks from Xmas, so may decide to work those weeks to cover his absence.

I can always get a standard reference from HR.

I have no idea what sort of work to do afterwards. May just be easier to reclaim ESA, and may try to get PIP this time too.

Having a 6 week notice, means I get 6 weeks worth of pay which may be useful when I have no income.
 
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when did you sign off ESA burt? I know for a little while you can do a rapid reclaim for ESA that reinstates your old claim if working doesn't work out. I think for most benefits it is a 12 week window to do a rapid reclaim. I dunno if you are out of that though?

I think you are wise to prioritise your health, i wish you all the best with it all :hug1:
 
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when did you sign off ESA burt? I know for a little while you can do a rapid reclaim for ESA that reinstates your old claim if working doesn't work out. I think for most benefits it is a 12 week window to do a rapid reclaim. I dunno if you are out of that though?

I think you are wise to prioritise your health, I wish you all the best with it all :hug1:
I signed off on Sept 30th. I think I will just miss the window.

Thanks, claude, I have tried my best, maybe in different circumstances, it could have worked out. But now I am afraid to ask boss advice because he mocks me.
 
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Hello Burt. Good afternoon!

Only just seen this thread. By reading it I can only conclude that you have moved on from thinking about it, and are now planning your exit.

With it being Saturday you are hopefully in a pub somewhere relaxing and enjoying a pint.

If you have made the decision to leave, is there any point in making yourself miserable by continuing to go in? If you are not enjoying it, do not put yourself through it. It is admirable that you are being responsible, acknowledging that you will be monitoring the systems in your boss' absence, and delaying doing anything with this in mind.

That said, you need to look after yourself. Get back to doing the things that you enjoy - the things that make you happy.

If you were to give notice and hand in a fit note, they might cancel your boss' annual leave :) How's that for a parting gift? :)

PS. I still think the 6 week notice period is abhorrent considering you have been there for such a short period of time.
 
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