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Justafriend95

Justafriend95

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A few months ago I signed up here. Hoping to find people to talk to. And I have @Zoe1 and @midnightphoenix you both are the best!

The only thing is I don't know what I'm doing here.. my expectations where way to high..
I hoped to find someone to talk to openly..

Not only me but also the other person. I mean the real shit.. not the I feel not okay part..

This was never going to happen but I had hope..
Now I find myself here every day.. multiple times a day.. writhing, thinking and answer to your questions.

I would like a real conversation. Instead of it will be okay and do you have a therapist.. I don't mean it in the bad way. Many people like that but I don't find it helpful..

I still have no one to talk to.. it's just like in real life and I hate that.. again I'm not mad or dissepoined but my hopes where to high..

I'm going to give myself a week to deside what I am going to do.

Thanks for reading and listening. I hope you will have a better experience 💕
 
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bippie71

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It’ll be okay, therapist, free clinic, etc etc. common. I think, truthfully, if the site went the route you are referring. It might be flagged as a place that is promoting suicide or erratic behavior. Like those pro anorexia sites. So to avoid that, people keep it ‘somewhat’ light or safe. Doesn’t mean you can’t say what you feel but the replies are tempered.
 
Justafriend95

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i hope you choose to stay, we'll all miss you if you choose to go :hug:
Why would you miss me? I mean you only try to help me.. I'm not like Fairy Lucretia or the others that you talk to.

I don't know why anyone would miss me between this large group of people 🥺 I now you mean well but do you understand what I'm saying?
 
midnightphoenix

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Why would you miss me? I mean you only try to help me.. I'm not like Fairy Lucretia or the others that you talk to.

I don't know why anyone would miss me between this large group of people 🥺 I now you mean well but do you understand what I'm saying?
because i like you and i enjoy reading your posts :hug:
 
Justafriend95

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It’ll be okay, therapist, free clinic, etc etc. common. I think, truthfully, if the site went the route you are referring. It might be flagged as a place that is promoting suicide or erratic behavior. Like those pro anorexia sites. So to avoid that, people keep it ‘somewhat’ light or safe. Doesn’t mean you can’t say what you feel but the replies are tempered.
I understand that.. that's why I find it so hard..
I don't need 100 people reacting on a post like that. I don't want to create that kind of website. But I need 1- 2 friends who I can be 100% with..

I hope you understand what I mean 🥺🥺
 
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bippie71

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I understand that.. that's why I find it so hard..
I don't need 100 people reacting on a post like that. I don't want to create that kind of website. But I need 1- 2 friends who I can be 100% with..

I hope you understand what I mean 🥺🥺
Understand you. It is a huge responsibility for someone to hear the truth. Mental illness is so painful it sometimes can’t even be properly explained with words. I take this site for what it is: posting and knowing, someone will reply. Unlike other social media sites, people ignore you, tell you to stop complaining and get on with life, or report you and your account can be suspended.

You are welcome to private message me. Please know, I’m in a bad place now. Physically ill, unemployed, no money and I’ve given up. I’m not trying anymore.
 
midnightphoenix

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Understand you. It is a huge responsibility for someone to hear the truth. Mental illness is so painful it sometimes can’t even be properly explained with words. I take this site for what it is: posting and knowing, someone will reply. Unlike other social media sites, people ignore you, tell you to stop complaining and get on with life, or report you and your account can be suspended.

You are welcome to private message me. Please know, I’m in a bad place now. Physically ill, unemployed, no money and I’ve given up. I’m not trying anymore.
(((((lots and lots of loves to bippie))))) :loveshower::hug:
 
Lunar Lady

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A few months ago I signed up here. Hoping to find people to talk to. And I have @Zoe1 and @midnightphoenix you both are the best!

The only thing is I don't know what I'm doing here.. my expectations where way to high..
I hoped to find someone to talk to openly..

Not only me but also the other person. I mean the real shit.. not the I feel not okay part..

This was never going to happen but I had hope..
Now I find myself here every day.. multiple times a day.. writhing, thinking and answer to your questions.

I would like a real conversation. Instead of it will be okay and do you have a therapist.. I don't mean it in the bad way. Many people like that but I don't find it helpful..

I still have no one to talk to.. it's just like in real life and I hate that.. again I'm not mad or dissepoined but my hopes where to high..

I'm going to give myself a week to deside what I am going to do.

Thanks for reading and listening. I hope you will have a better experience 💕
I've been following you, Justafriend. You're in my thoughts.

I guess everybody here is burdened and struggling with something. As lovely as it is to have one-to-one friendships, the forum gives you the strength of a community. One person can become overwhelmed by the weight of another's anguish - the forum pages give people the opportunity to volunteer advice or support when they are strong enough to do so.

Sometimes the most important thing is to be HEARD...and loved.

Whether you are aware of us or not - there are lots here that care and wish you well.

All friendships are based on reciprocity. We all have phases of being strong - and feeling lost -supporting - and needing support. We're like skittles...getting knocked down flat and then being helped back into an upright position. We all take our turn in what role we play in the process. x
 
HauntedWitch

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A few months ago I signed up here. Hoping to find people to talk to. And I have @Zoe1 and @midnightphoenix you both are the best!The only thing is I don't know what I'm doing here.. my expectations where way to high..
I hoped to find someone to talk to openly..Not only me but also the other person. I mean the real shit.. not the I feel not okay part..This was never going to happen but I had hope..Now I find myself here every day.. multiple times a day.. writhing, thinking and answer to your questions.
I would like a real conversation. 💕
I can relate. Most forum talk is not in-depth enough to maintain my interest. We are touching the surface of the subjects and not getting to the real issues, and I think that has to be expected in public spaces to some extent and partly for security reasons. I am guessing, but I think the real conversations are happening behind the scenes as individuals get to know each other. That takes time and patience!
 
Someoldguy

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I understand that.. that's why I find it so hard..
I don't need 100 people reacting on a post like that. I don't want to create that kind of website. But I need 1- 2 friends who I can be 100% with..

I hope you understand what I mean 🥺🥺
Do you think that perhaps the reason you have not found someone to speak with here is the same reason you don't have someone to speak with away from here?

I have found as I get older it's harder and harder to make and maintain friendships. And I've never had many friends in my life anyway, so that only compounds the situation for me.
 
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I would also miss reading your posts

sorry I cant do more, Im just not very well myself

:love::love::love:
 
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