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They have a skill of twisting things

Confusedandanxious

Confusedandanxious

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Rant. (A person I'm close to who I support - though trying to switch off)

I'm sick of it. Well and truly sick. Apparently they want nothing more to do with me, but unfortunately that is just another manipulation tactic because they were unable to manipulate me.

The way they twist things is unbelievable. From me saying I had no issue, to that somehow going back years to when I did have an issue - meaning that I DO still have an issue. Anything to justify their continued shitty behaviour towards me!!

I even said stop going off what you THINK I think and feel and go off what I am saying. But oh no, that means that I dont understand and I should be able to understand. The fact that I dont means that i dont care.
Fuck my life.

Now all of this is for another reason entirely. This pointless argument with me was to give reason for their shitty behaviour towards somebody else.

Something is changing and they are not happy with it. They want things to stay the same and they cant. So they are going to get angry and try to manipulate the situation by playing the mental health card.

So when they have to play the mental health card, they need to be upset and down and have a reason behind that. What better thing than an argument with me and losing a valuable support system. If I am out of the equation completely, they will hope they will be given better support for the other thing and that is just not going to happen.

The awful awful things that get said to me time and time again when things arent going their way is beyond a joke. It really is. This person needs to take responsibility for themselves and sort their fricken life out.

Bare in mind I've had no contact with this person for a few weeks as they havent wanted to see me. During this time I havent tried to contact, because well, why would I message somebody who doesnt want to see me? Knowing fine well if i messaged I'd be given abuse. So i cant win. I got abuse for not contacting!

I am at the point where I am done. I will not be trying to contact again. Not at all. If they contact me with abuse I will block. If they contact with an apology I may stick around. That is unlikely. They never apologise.
Wait..they do. If it means they will get something out of it.
Next week I can see me being a handy tool, so I imagine some kind of contact will happen.

When I strip it all back, their life must be ran through manipulation. It doesnt matter what is going on and who with, there is manipulation being used.

Without them getting help, they're never going to be able to break this pattern.
 
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dewey

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Sounds like you know your mind at this point, and want to distance yourself from "them", whoever "they are".
Trust your own gut instinct
 
Confusedandanxious

Confusedandanxious

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Yup. I definitely think I am thinking about this clearly compared to previous times.

Thank you. I'm 100% going to trust my own instinct this time.
 
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