The Idiot In Charge Made a Huge Mistake

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specifically taking his ass to Social Media and inviting anyone who had experienced problems with Centrelink to contact him personally, heres his email.

Well I have years of them, so I contacted the email, presuming it wasn't a joke.

Imagine my amazement that Ive had 2 replies in the last week wanting to know my details so they can investigate further.

It remains to be seen if anything happens, but if it does, I might change Australia.

Yeah, right.

Ill keep this thead updated but whats the bet I get some generic, We are Sorry But That's The Law, horseshite.

At least they are listening, I suppose.

I'm really very very surprised.

I'm wondering if I'm one of their Worst Cases due to the speed with which they've got back to me, no doubt they were inundated with complaints.
 
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Hi BDU, did you get any response/information/input?
I am always suspicious obout such things.
Maybe I'm cynical but from personal experience I feel it justified.
 
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Hi BDU, did you get any response/information/input?
I am always suspicious obout such things.
Maybe I'm cynical but from personal experience I feel it justified.
would you believe, I actually DID?

his sekketary called me and told me that Centrelink were WRONG.

true story...!

but its all irrelevant now any way, at least for the time being, my niece bless her has amongst other things, avoidant PD so I haven't seen her since before Xmas

when I found out she was out working the grottiest most disgusting beat in town

and if shes well enough to be a working girl, she doesn't need a carer. :( also she has no intention of quitting heroin or her lifestyle, never did, just wanted the govt to supply her a free maid/taxi service basically.

shes avoiding me cos she owes me $100 :D omg.

and I'm avoiding her because well, I can teach her a thing or two about APD.
 
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Well done for contacting them in the first place
andWOW for getting a response!!
It proves they took you seriously by not sending you the standard
letter.

Congratulations, and I hope this post is extremely helpful
for other people.
I'm sure it will be.
 
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Well done for contacting them in the first place
andWOW for getting a response!!
It proves they took you seriously by not sending you the standard
letter.

Congratulations, and I hope this post is extremely helpful
for other people.
I'm sure it will be.
Centrelink are in huge shit down here. They've sent a bunch of people to debt collectors and its all turned out to be a ginormous screw up.

so the lead guy went so far to put his personal email on twitter and facebook

and i was answered within about a week.

But this is Australia, its different to everywhere else. Our politicians are as nervous as hell. :D
 
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Hi BDU, sounds like a total 'cock up' to say the least of it.
I think I would feel totally screwed up.

Sorry about your niece. Any chance of getting your money back?
I also have APD.
We need to be there to understand it.

Hope things begin to improve for you.
Thinking about you. X
 
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Hi BDU, sounds like a total 'cock up' to say the least of it.
I think I would feel totally screwed up.

Sorry about your niece. Any chance of getting your money back?
I also have APD.
We need to be there to understand it.

Hope things begin to improve for you.
Thinking about you. X
thanks Polly.

yes I believe my niece will pay me back eventually but that's not what I'm really worried about, I'm more worried about her lifestyle etc but like I said shes a grown adult and free to swing naked from the chandaliers if she so chooses. :(

I keep trying to get there but having features of APD myself, its kinda like two ships sneaking past each other in the night :D
 
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Hi BDU,

Just wondering if any of your situations are on the way to being resolved.
It's undstandable how you feel about your niece, but as you said, she's a grown woman
but it doesn't stop you still feeling concerned when it's a family member (or anyone you feel close to)

Anymore news about Centrelink or is that over now?

Hope you have a good weekend.
 
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Hi BDU,

Just wondering if any of your situations are on the way to being resolved.
It's undstandable how you feel about your niece, but as you said, she's a grown woman
but it doesn't stop you still feeling concerned when it's a family member (or anyone you feel close to)

Anymore news about Centrelink or is that over now?

Hope you have a good weekend.
hi Polly

I actually called in to see her yesterday - that is to say, I woke her up at midday and we had a brief convo through the door.

I was with my friend so we didn't go in but I told her I would be back soon.

the only thing she did manage to tell me - the first and only thing actually - her sister got engaged just last week and shes ALREADY been told shes not going to be a Bridesmaid.

Yes.

Isnt that cruel. They don't even have the fucking venue picked, but by God they know whos NOT going to be in the Wedding Party.

Freaks.

I just said, don't worry, no one will marry that little bitch anyway. Itll break up before then.

Centrelink is just a big fat joke. No news there nor am I expecting any.
 
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Hi BDU,
Have you been in touch with your niece again after her telling you about not
being a bridesmaid?

It does sound cruel but I'm wondering
1) how it was said
2) why it was said

It must also bevery distressing for you as they are both your nieces. (?)

Are there any other sisters or brothers?

As if you didn't have enough problems already.
Then this comes along.

I hope you can try to find out exactly what is happening,
even for your own peace of mind.

Hang in there and look after yourself.

Polly x
 
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Hi BDU,
Have you been in touch with your niece again after her telling you about not
being a bridesmaid?

It does sound cruel but I'm wondering
1) how it was said
2) why it was said

It must also bevery distressing for you as they are both your nieces. (?)

Are there any other sisters or brothers?

As if you didn't have enough problems already.
Then this comes along.

I hope you can try to find out exactly what is happening,
even for your own peace of mind.

Hang in there and look after yourself.

Polly x
lol Polly.

they are mental.

I haven't caught up with my niece again yet (being that shes a drug addicted street walker, they keep odd hours) but her family miss no chance to kick her down even further.

The irony is, even though she cant see it, shes the sanest and most human of all of them.

Its like my family tree is split in two: you're either a sociopath, or you're their victim.

She and I are both their victims. Her father is my brother and he beat me every single day growing up, hes lucky I even speak to him let alone try to look after his daughter for him.

They would've told her shes not going to be a bridesmaid, because that's WHAT THEY DO.

never miss a chance to kick your victim.

I mean, the little bitch whose allegedly sucked some idiot into marrying her (he looks about 12) is on the sociopath side, so the chances that the pooor little fellow will survive long enough to even want to be in the same room with her a year from now, are not high anyway.

They could've left the You Cant Be In The Wedding Speech for a year, but No, it was the No.1. decision.

that's just typical of the nastiness I grew up in. Then my brother married a woman who is also as dysfunctional as hell, and this is what weve ended up with. When they got married actually, Id already done my first Major Move going to the North Island in NZ, miles away, and they had their wedding and honeymoon in my city without even inviting me or telling me about it.

that's just the way they roll.

Vile, awful people with far too much control over us. :(

Ive run, that's why I live in Australia, Ive been running from these people since I was 16 but they keep following me.
 
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yes there is another brother, who is a Christian and stands in a pulpit waving his bible all day

hes the one who tried to have sex with me when I was 8.

Yep.

I'm literally the only one trying to help my niece, me with the fewest resources.

:shrug:
 
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Hi BDU.
not been around this wk.
It's been a "go away world" and under the duvet time.
I hate it.

How are things going?
Your family situations sound horrible.
I can understand now why you moved away.

I agree that it could have waited much longer for them to
tell your niece about not being a bridesmaid.
That really is so cruel.
Are you invited or are you also on the wrong side of the family tree,
as you put it.

Does anyone know about your ordeal with bible bashing brother?
That is just so sick.

Any more news about your niece?
I understand what you mean about kicking the victims.
It sounds to me as if you and your niece are the better side of
the family.

I think it's wonderful the way you are looking out for her, especially
with the lifestyle most people would shun her for.
You probably don't like it either but you have not banned her from
your life.

I hope the coming week is a calm(ish) one. x
 
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hi what a lovely message

no I'm not well enough to catch up with her. I'm struggling as it is, shes on heroin so.

she dodges me though, bc she owes me $$. :)

I will get in touch with her as soon as I get over this Dark Spell I'm in. Ive been in it since my daughter kicked me on 31st Dec then other things have happened so I'm in a Right State. Literally.

on the other hand I'm ok, that is to say, I'm ok. ive had a shower, I'm not scheming xyz.

I'm safe for now.

and I'm on a new med which has improved my physical pain 100% but may be triggering off more suicidal thoughts so. I go back to the doctor tomorrow to fid out about that.

I'm a mess today tbh but I'm also realizing how a good nights sleep is involved in all that. my bed is brand new but absolutely fucked, its a huge issue.

ive been up since 3am in pain but the pain is gone now, just not the mental pain.

I'm sat in the dark literally, not eating drinking etc.

ugh. I hate days like these.

I'm trying to get up the energy to bike down and buy lunch.
 
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Hi BDU,
You dont sound in a very good place at the moment.
Actually there are a lot of places that don't sound good.

Was there any reason your daughter kicked you particularly?

I hope your dark spell is starting to lift.
When so many things are happening it drags me down dreadfully.
I'm sure you know the feeling of how much it all escalates and starts to
compound.
Often it seems like the only way is down.
That sounds like your situation as well.

Is the med for your pain working well or was it responsible for
the suicidal thoughts?
I do hope you have managed to get something sorted.

I had to go for some x rays today but my greatest problem was
trying to have a shower and wash my hair.
I wasn't in the least bit worried about the clinic visits.
That sounds so disgusting but it is a massive problem to me.

Have you managed to see your niece yet or are you still not well enough.
Or on the other hand is she still avoiding you.
This must be such an ongoing struggle for you.

Please keep yourself safe. x
 
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Hi BDU,
You dont sound in a very good place at the moment.
Actually there are a lot of places that don't sound good.

Was there any reason your daughter kicked you particularly?

I hope your dark spell is starting to lift.
When so many things are happening it drags me down dreadfully.
I'm sure you know the feeling of how much it all escalates and starts to
compound.
Often it seems like the only way is down.
That sounds like your situation as well.

Is the med for your pain working well or was it responsible for
the suicidal thoughts?
I do hope you have managed to get something sorted.

I had to go for some x rays today but my greatest problem was
trying to have a shower and wash my hair.
I wasn't in the least bit worried about the clinic visits.
That sounds so disgusting but it is a massive problem to me.

Have you managed to see your niece yet or are you still not well enough.
Or on the other hand is she still avoiding you.
This must be such an ongoing struggle for you.

Please keep yourself safe. x
Thank you for your kind words.

My daughter kicked me, because i asked for it basically - pretty much begged her to tell me what the eff has come between us.

Weve hardly had a cross word, its just been 8 years of silence and me being confused and trying to keep in touch.

Then i got in touch with my niece who has problems of her own, and she is in touch with my daughter (sort of) and knows the situation so every time i see my niece she tells me something worse about my own kids, specifically their fathers role in whats been going on

its all very muddled and complicated and ive never had any say in any of it, just sort of sat around protesting

now its coming to light that there may be some sort of abuse going on between my kids and their father

its foul and ugly

and now my niece is basically dying and no one cares, I'm glad you asked about her i intend to pop in and see her today. whether she likes it or not haha. and also try to get her to agree to routinely text me at least once a week so i know shes ok.

i called in briefly to see her last weekend, woke her up at midday, as you do with heroin heads :(

yeah its a muddle and if i think about it, its when the Scidial thoughts start.
 
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also they doubled the ami and i got the first solid nights sleep ive had since i can remember literally

which is wonderful! :) another couple of nights like that ill be taking on the world.
 
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I'm so sorry about all these situations.

You have an awful lot going on regarding family.
I think you have far more empathy than any of them
but unfortunately you seem to be suffering more than anyone
because of it.

I'm so sorry to hear just how poorly your niece is.
I think you're wonderful with the support you are giving.

Especially as you are probably the one with least resources.

I'm glad you have had a good nights sleep.
And hope it continues.
It makes such a difference in many aspects of life.

Hoping I will also slip into slumberland!!!
 
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I'm so sorry about all these situations.

You have an awful lot going on regarding family.
I think you have far more empathy than any of them
but unfortunately you seem to be suffering more than anyone
because of it.

I'm so sorry to hear just how poorly your niece is.
I think you're wonderful with the support you are giving.

Especially as you are probably the one with least resources.

I'm glad you have had a good nights sleep.
And hope it continues.
It makes such a difference in many aspects of life.

Hoping I will also slip into slumberland!!!
thank you my dear i hope you do too.