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The guilt

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RizwanX

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When my son had his first psychosis in May of this year, I was working abroad in France.
I had to return home as it was an emergency.

The thing is now 3 months later I feel guilty that I left him in the UK.

Do other family members/carers experience feelings of guilt?

Riz
 
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You did all you could, coming home for him is a big sacrifice! You couldnt have predicted what was going to happen to him.
Guilt will eat you up and tear you apart. You need to put it to oneside and focus on the here and now.
What support are you getting - are you able to talk to your son's support worker/carer?
Hugs
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It was his destiny to have the mental health problem. It was your destiny to be in France. Everything is happening as it should be. Guilt is a trick of the mind.
 
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Hi Riz,

Don't feel guilty - you had to go back. We know that you can't be everywhere at once, and if it was an emergency, then you had to do what you had to do. Of course you'd like to be with him, but you have your own things in your own life as well, and it's important to respect them as well.

Much love <3
 
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RizwanX

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Hi everyone, thanks for the replies. It is difficult not to feel guilty. Both my wife and I questioned ourselves after he was ill. You know the usual coulda shoulda woulda if we'd stayed in Manchester.

The sad thing is that when we flew back to Manchester from Paris I didn't realise that I wouldn't be going back at all.
Still, I am here for my son and always will be.

BTW my son is getting better albeit slowly. We take one day at a time.

Rix
 
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He has a care worker from the Early Intervention team but doesn't really engage with here.
 
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