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The Effect Of Sibling Compsotion On an Individual

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I don't just mean how many Brothers and Sisters you have,but whether your the oldest,Older,Middle,Younger,Youngest whatever........

I mean most people don't give it much thought.

There's certainly very little on the subject about.

I would have Imagined that it has a Profound effect on a Person's Psyche.

Can anybody tell me what they know on this subject???

I'd be really grateful.
 
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I of course mean Sibling Composition.!!

Doh!! :oops: ...
 
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There is lots of stuff about this on the net, mainly work done by the psychiatric/psychologist journals about all sorts of aspects of sibling competition/composition.

There was a survey done that found that the more sons a family has then the greater the chance that the younger ones will be gay.

I am the third of 4 brothers, I am gay. My gay lover was the third of his 4 brothers. Of course this doesn't take into account why some with only 1 or 2 children have gay children too.

You will find lots of info here

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birth_order
 
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There has been quiute a lot of research into this. The eldest usually is more confident, but takes on too much responsiblity and can resent that. The youngest tends to be more happy go lucky but feels a little powerless in some cases. The one you don't want to be is the middle one, like me, because they often feel the most overlooked and has the most struggle in life. Well that is my summary, and probably its a hell of a lot more complicated than that. This is from doing m y psychology degree (around the time of Stonehenge), so don't quote me.

Pentagram, my youngest brother is gay so I wonder........ and why would that be the case?
 
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I'm the oldest of two. I have a brother (i'm female). My parents have admitted that they were probably more relaxed with my brother than with me cos i was always the 'experiment'. By that I mean that i was always going to be the first to do anything (obviously), and by the time it was time for my brother to (eg) teethe, go to playgroup, go to school etc, they'd already been through it with one kid, so they had something to compare it to and learn from.
My dad also admitted a few years ago that they'd let my brother away with more when he was a teenager simply because he's male. Stuff like where they'd let him go, or how late they'd let him stay out.
My brother is much more gregarious, sociable and outgoing than me, and has been for a long time. He wasn't when we were little kids (I don't think), so maybe it's nature, maybe it's nurture and it comes out over time - i dunno. He also doesn't have any m/h issues either. Who knows how that works!

I don't know all that much on the research about sibling order, or male and female siblings, but i imagine there must be some effects. The majority of people have sibling(s) though, so temperament must account for some m/h issues, otherwise more people would be unwell (if sibling stuff were the cause. Or A cause).
 
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I have a theory that blokes with just brothers are far more likely to go for women with just Sisters and Vice-versa.

Similarly blokes with Sisters and Brothers or No Brothers are likely to be attracted to Women with Brothers and Sisters or No Sisters.

I Haven't got any statistical evidence to back this up;it's just based on observations of people that I've met or known in my past.

And also to me for some reason it seems to make common sense.
 
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I had an older sister, who died 24 years ago when she was 17 and I was 16. She was always the more confident, outgoing one who was carefree. I was much quieter and took a lot on my shoulders, especially after my sister died. I've also felt incredibly overlooked by my parents and family in general, kind of like "she's strong and independant, she doesn't need us". MY sister was planned, I was an accident.

My husband is the fourth of five boys. He's close to his younger borther, and was close to his eldest brother, who died 2 years ago.
 
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I am the oldest of three(have younger brother and sister). I am the least confident and most anxious.
 
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I'm 18, my sister is 7 my brother is 3. They have different Dads.

I'm absolutely neurotic about something happening to them.
 
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ive always wondered about this theory

in my real family.i was the middle one
then i was adopted and became the eldest
but i never felt comfortable being the eldest
always being the one to get everything right
set a good examle etc.
and i dunno but the eldest seems to have more responsibily and get the blame and parents seem more strict.with the eldest and they admit tht !

i dont know how i felt being the middle one in my real family cos i dont remember due to things
all i know is i felt safe.with my big sis supporting me.

i just know i hated and still do being the elder
still the one having to be responsible.

maybe i dont like responsibility cos originally i was the middle child.
who knows!
 
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Im the middle one and the "invisible" one, also my eldest child does take on more, I do let my son away with more and my youngest is as hard as nails???
 
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I've heard that Youngest siblings tend to have a more Optimistic,Adventurous,and less compromising outlook than the older ones who tend to be more serious,cautious,and pragmatic and apparently more spiritual as well.

Unless it's a family of four or more boys and then the youngest one tends to become more introverted than the others for some reason.
 
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MM interesting my eldest is kevin the teenager at mo so hard too tell?
 
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