
trombone_babe
Well-known member
I have a problem that I get very attached to one particular male friend, I want to talk to them all the time, let them very close to me and usually end up ruining the friendship with what borders on obsessive behaviour. There is currently one particular guy who I think the world of, who is distancing himself from me as he "can't deal with the moods." I suffer from depression and anxiety btw. He was supportive for quite a while & I told him all sorts of stuff which made me feel better. This in turn led to me having a strong emotional bond to him (just as friends as I'm happily married) and wanting to get closer. He doesn't want me close to him though, he's a very private person. I'm hurting just now cos he wants to keep his distance until I get some therapy, which I've just asked my doc to put in place.
The trouble is, I had a very long chat on facebook with an old (male) friend from my school days (now a very long time ago!) and he's been through some tough stuff as well. Again I've found him understanding and I'm starting to feel I want to contact him again, but I know that this is how these attachments start, and I'm frightened of going through the same old cycle yet again.
What should I do, about either of these guys? Should I tell the second guy about my worries? He already knows that I have these attachments.
The trouble is, I had a very long chat on facebook with an old (male) friend from my school days (now a very long time ago!) and he's been through some tough stuff as well. Again I've found him understanding and I'm starting to feel I want to contact him again, but I know that this is how these attachments start, and I'm frightened of going through the same old cycle yet again.
What should I do, about either of these guys? Should I tell the second guy about my worries? He already knows that I have these attachments.