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Any advice on how to worry less about whatever it is i write to someone i dont know that well.

I go full on panic attack whenever i dont pre-write what i want to say or when i say something in a confusing way.
And with adhd that happens way too many times for me to handle.
 
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Same with posting online...I hate texting though. I prefer picking up the phone.
 
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Like Bobby B says, what worries you about texting? What do you fear might happen?
 
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Hi your very welcome to the forum.
Can I ask is your concern about What they will think of you?
Yeah i worry there will be a misscommunication or just akward moments through texts
 
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Like Bobby B says, what worries you about texting? What do you fear might happen?
Im just afraid that i wont know how to respond or that i will respond badly (grammer mistakes, not understanding their texts ect.)
 
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I'm sorry, I don't have much to add, except that it doesn't bother me if there are any mistakes in text, as long as I can understand what is written. If a misunderstanding comes up, then we'll sort it out - I don't see that as a problem, even though, I admit, it does feel awkward.

So, maybe you are just in need of more positive experiences? Have you been criticised in the past about the way you express yourself? Or, maybe, were there often arguments in your family as you were growing up? All of that can have a negative influence on the way you see and feel for yourself. But things may actually not be that bad, sometimes.
 
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Im just afraid that i wont know how to respond or that i will respond badly (grammer mistakes, not understanding their texts ect.)
I can understand that, you want to make a good impression and have a good chat! But remember, when it comes to socialising, you won't be able to prepare for everything. Going with the flow of a conversation is something that comes with practice. And hey, we all make mistakes sometimes, it's only human! But we also learn from those mistakes.

I'd start with the closest friend/family member you have. Let them know that you want a bit of help, and you can work with them to overcome this. Once you feel more confident, you can start practicing with other conversations. One step at a time, you'll get there :)
 
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