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Terrified if I'm attracted to my mother, or if it's just OCD

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Not really. Maybe a weak limp one every now and again still that was enough to fuel the OCD. Keep in mind though that you can have an erection to just about any thing and it doesn’t mean much in terms of what you are actually going to do in life.

I mean stuff like waking up, exercising or even having to pee are enough to give people random boners. I’m sure it happens with men who are participants in sports like MMA or Wrestling the difference is they don’t think much about it at all whereas someone with OCD would question their sexuality based on that alone.
Yeah, that’s true that you can get erections while working on a project you enjoy, or food, or etc but there was a difference between that type of erection and the one I got when I “challenged” myself to look at photos of my mother. The former situation is more random while the latter happens as a result of observing what you’re looking at. Since you never got erect, and I did (once or twice) that makes me more concerned that this is beyond ocd and veering into incest territory.
 
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And also, why am I not getting erect when looking at pictures of similarly aged average/plain looking women, but am getting erect when looking at my mother?
 
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Edit: for what it’s worth, I also got erect a couple of times when I compared with an average looking similarly aged woman.
 
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Sorry but I really would like some closure on this. I don’t have healthcare so I can’t talk to a therapist about it. I don’t know what’s going on.
 
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Reddit, you are actually training your mind to link sexual arousal with your mother by focusing so much on this.

This is not a scenario you would let happen in real life, is it? I think you've had a physical response to your mother and dwelling on this and bringing your mother to mind when you masturbate is now creating those synapses in your brain.

Erections are no big deal - blood re-directed to an organ creating a physiological response. Doesn't matter why it happened - most important thing is to let it go now. If that's proving too difficult it sounds like a constantly recurring OCD thought that you need some help with.
 
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Having had OCD issues, I can any say that anxiety over thoughts themselves are often the subject of the OCD obsession, not the specific subject of the thoughts. In other words, your thought about these thoughts is what you really obsess over and causes anxiety. It gets replayed in your mind. This is true for any subject, not just sexually oriented thoughts. I believe you have reached the stage where you are becoming anxious about having the thoughts much more than the specific subject matter. Its a cycle that goes around and around and the only way to break the cycle is to ignore the OCD thought when it enters your mind. Mindfulness and being in the moment helps. Something is needed to distract your attention. It WILL go away and the OCD thoughts get replaced with something else. Easier said than done, yes, but I have been there and done that. I know what you are talking about. OCD thought patterns can often be difficult to control and create a lot of anxiety and distress.

Here is a trick that might help..next time this thought comes up and the anxiety starts-- focus on something innocuous , like the sensation of your feet in contact with the ground or focus entirely on an ambient sound in your vicinity. Ignore anything else. Just focus just on the sensation. Don't think, analyze, or judge anything. Just do this for a minute if you can. It can be difficult to do when your mind is racing..but try it...then if it gets easy, do it for maybe two minutes..or five......After a while, you will wonder, what happened to that thought I was having? It just went away. Your brain was preoccupied with other matters.
 
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Ive had some weird fantasies but not about my immediate family sure my cousins nothing to worry about dude you are just trying to bust a nut we all think of some weird shit but most people dont admit it and sure the medication is making much harder so you need to think of weirder things id consider coming off it gradually then having just purely cbt therapy thats my view
 
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I’m sorry I’m making another post about this but I dont have anyone to talk to about this, like a therapist, since I don’t have healthcare right now. I’m worried again.

Something else has come up recently though which has my concern. I worry that this is different from intrusive thoughts.

I "challenged" myself to rub my penis (while wearing underwear) in a counterclockwise motion, while looking at a picture of my mother. I didn't ejaculate, but I started feeling a small sensation, similar to what happens when you're sexually stimulated during arousal while masturbating. It can be described as "the juices flowing". When I felt this I looked away.

I've read that those with sexually intrusive thoughts, particularly POCD, can experience unwanted orgasm as a result of these thoughts. However, since it doesn't describe anything other than POCD, I worry that this may be different. Logically, I would assume that this is the same thing, but my OCD like symptoms are making me hyper-worried about this to the point where I can't leave any stone unturned. I feel like having a groinal response is one thing, but feeling stimulation while touching myself is another.

If I had that type of reaction while touching myself, looking at that photo, is this still likely related to OCD, or is it potentially related to incestuous desire?
 
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Dogs give themselves blow jobs in front of us and rape other dogs, but that's fine, no problems. Aww cute dog, go figure. Moderator, I am just speaking the truth.
 
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Dogs give themselves blow jobs in front of us and rape other dogs, but that's fine, no problems. Aww cute dog, go figure. Moderator, I am just speaking the truth.
I know, posting about this over and over is pathetic. I wish I could help it.
 
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Sorry I think something touched a nerve with me recently after hearing about something the family dog did recently, maybe what I said in my previous post is not relevant to this thread.
 
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If you find the thought of acting out on these thoughts repulsive like you described before and you get anxiety from the thought of acting out on them than you need to just ignore them for the noise that they are.

Look at it this way we are animals too at the end of the day as another poster just noted by bringing up dogs. What separates us from most of them is our ability to form our own culture, ethics and language. I am no evolutionary scientist by any means , but if I was to hazard a guess we along with most species have evolved over time to find incest repulsive primarily because inbreeding doesn’t produce the healthiest babies thus jeopardizing the survival of our species.

let’s just say you never knew your mother and then one day you found her without knowing she was your mom and you were physically attracted to her would you think about it or second guess things? No you wouldn’t you’d just see an attractive woman. So then why would it be shocking to think that you could look at your mother in the present or in the past and think she’s good looking? It’s the knowledge that it’s your mother that repulses you or causes anxiety and that is what prevents you from acting on anything.
 
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If you find the thought of acting out on these thoughts repulsive like you described before and you get anxiety from the thought of acting out on them than you need to just ignore them for the noise that they are.

Look at it this way we are animals too at the end of the day as another poster just noted by bringing up dogs. What separates us from most of them is our ability to form our own culture, ethics and language. I am no evolutionary scientist by any means , but if I was to hazard a guess we along with most species have evolved over time to find incest repulsive primarily because inbreeding doesn’t produce the healthiest babies thus jeopardizing the survival of our species.

let’s just say you never knew your mother and then one day you found her without knowing she was your mom and you were physically attracted to her would you think about it or second guess things? No you wouldn’t you’d just see an attractive woman. So then why would it be shocking to think that you could look at your mother in the present or in the past and think she’s good looking? It’s the knowledge that it’s your mother that repulses you or causes anxiety and that is what prevents you from acting on anything.
So you’re saying that I’m attracted to my mother, but I wouldn’t act on those thoughts? That’s disturbing.
 
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So you’re saying that I’m attracted to my mother, but I wouldn’t act on those thoughts? That’s disturbing.
If you want to interpret it that way you can, but no that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying
that if you strip away all knowledge and context such thoughts would not bother you therefore it should not be surprising to you that you could have thoughts about your mom’s looks or your sisters or your cousin or your aunt etc etc. It is knowing that you are related to them that makes an otherwise attractive looking person disgustingly unattractive to you, me and most people.

What’s more disturbing thinking your mother is fit or in good shape or has nice legs and letting the thought come and go never paying any mind to it or thinking anything of it or having an incestuous relationship with your mother? It is quite clear that the latter is more disturbing to you as you just admitted to me so why be so preoccupied with all this?
 
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