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Terribly DISCRIMINATED in FRANCE

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56513785

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Hi, everybody!
This is my chaotic situation since I am STUCK in France and running out of resources to cover my family's needs!! I've finally come to the point of seeking advice and possible help with my situation. I've been living in Fr for six years now. I have been discriminated and terribly ignored by any single administration or service I have outreached for help. I have never been employed by ANY local firm or organization even if I am a proficient user of the language and have all papers and local diplomas regularly updated; also, an owner, not only "visiting" the country... The very first problems I've met back, in the beginning, was my capacity to pick up the language fast, and I've managed to get diplomas and so on. In 2016, I've been turned down 98 times for job applications, and in 2017, July as is, I've submitted 117 applications—I've got an answer by two possible employers, and one of those never got back to me after my respective and correct letter to his offer... I am a former fire safety operator and because ppl evidently did not like my great exigencies as to "fire protection by the rules" and "competencies of the staff," I've made a re-qualification to become an editor, a profession which would happily accept people with such a "perfectionist's eye." Nonetheless, I am capable of locating errors just everywhere. I have somehow acquired the provocative tone when people answer me things like "go to your country," "mind your own job (which indeed is pointing out those errors)," "we do not need assistance from the 3rd world (I am from the oriental part of EU)," etc. Even when I prove that I am right 99% accept as a challenge to their intellectual capacity when the only thing I want is TO HELP. My perfectionism goes as far as to detect obvious errors, even on the legislative level, the common EU frameworks, etc. I've managed to go through training with a couple of big corporate clients and the person who was supposed to train me somehow managed to dilute the message because "they have families" and I compromise their professionalism by finding obvious errors into the structure of the projects I was trusted. The paradox—I was hired as a proofreader and editor, which supposed that I was to do some "cleaning" before resubmitting those for publishing... Whatever I do, I see errors which crash my visual capacity to communicate until "those are there"... I even provide FREE services to research and academic staff whenever I see an important issue poorly translated or formatted, and this goes on and goes on...
Back to France, I've done my best to alarm that I am going through this pressure outreaching the local boundaries of the department. Nobody pays attention. I've also reached local media and nonprofits, willing to do some helpful stuff and somehow find a way to integrate on a side project or something financially. I've initiated several projects with no greater success since I sign with my name ending on ~ov... I've been insulted to be an "idiot," "retarded," and ultimately "autistic devil." I've done my research and have performed tests—I am not autistic or Asperger's, but yes I smash all possible IQ tests... Wherever I go, I maintain a low profile because I am a deep introvert and speak when I have s.th. Important to tell... On the limit of beginning to question myself whether I can be suffering from s.th. which is not evident to professionals, my family, or me, I'd like to know if you have been through s.th. similar and how did you cope with! Because my inner nature is so many like people from the USA, I am only sorry that when I have had the chance to choose, I did not target the country well! On the sideline, I've been assisting French ppl by sending anonymous proofread and edited material so that they can obtain a job and I've performed a follow-up, so this was of a real and practical help! For six years I do not have a single contract, and this is going out of control... I am often asked whether I was or have to do with "military staff" and I understand that being a fire safety operator for almost 14 years has affected deeply the way I speak and act! Now, I have a big family, and my husband is willing to leave us because he is so much tired of me suffering from the "search for employment." He says that "this only happens to you because you show off your intelligence" and I do not know how to handle it because for me I do not differ much from other people. If this would help, I am the INTJ type and tend to perform linguistics researches with great care and exigencies to the detail...
Thank you so much for reading and sorry for the wordiness! I won't be rereading for I risk not to publish it!
 
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mal blue moon

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You demonstrate Hypergraphia in your 'word' count of 845 words in this post , in my opinion ,what - how - fact -fiction the world has is foilables i personally don't care much for the world ,but to put my point of view across ,i do go to the native communication methods of a given situation ,ie when in rome do as the romans do ,,..
 
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Thank you for your input. I suppose this is a pro deformation as I rarely go under 10.000 words per day... Besides from being a benevolent immersion tutor, which supposes I am well-immerged, I've tried the "incorporation" method by doing exactly what I've witnessed "to be working for others"... Those who should hire me do change the response the very moment they hear my name and the country I come from... Desperating.
 
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Oh, and I do not suffer from hypergraphia and do not even come "close to it." Checked a year ago when screening for all possible "behavioral conditions." I simply have retained info for too many years.
 
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