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Supporting my son

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misshollz

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Hello again!

I know I have already posted once this morning in regards of my friend but this post is about my son.

My son is 15, he's transgender (female to male).
In short the past few years have been tough for him. He spent some time living with his dad, this broke down and certain services became involved.
He isn't allowed to come to me now until his GCSEs are finished next year as certain services don't wish to move him til after they are done.

I get it, I really do. What I don't like is the emotional impact it has on my son. To hear him wishing himself dead, he's attempted suicide by over dosing. He's self harmed.

He is not the child he was, he's so anxious about everything. His mood swings, he has unbelievable melt downs over the smallest things. He suffers severely with dysphoria.

He is recieving support in places but he feels they don't work. He currently spends each holiday with me, but I have noticed some behaviours that concern me, after googling around a bit I found these behaviours could be linked with autism, something that's never been mentioned before.

Now I'm currently sharing parental responsibility with said services and I don't know if I should approach this subject with them? And how best do I support my 15 year old for the next year? I'm trying to keep it all as positive as can be but he doesn't see any positive at all. It's all doom and gloom.

Sorry it's so long again everyone. I hope it makes sense.
 
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I am sorry you have such worry about your son. Its a major shift for him and not rare for transgender people becoming depressed. Is he getting any support from the LGBT community? They have befrienders who might be helpful.

Take it one day at a time. What does he say is the cause of depression on his opinion?
 
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misshollz

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I think it's a whole host off things.
The relationship break down with his dad and how his dad is now treating him is a major factor.
The dislike he has for his body.
The problems that any teenager has to cope with at school, just fitting in there.:low:

He is attending an LGBT group for teenagers, although I'm unaware as to how he feels about attending. Often brushes off the subject when brought up.
 
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