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Hi.
I'll try to keep this as brief as I can. Two years ago my cpn left and I was assigned a new one. The new one was mostly efficient but not someone I warmed to in the same way I had the previous one. She could be lovely one week then pushy the next.
Fast forward to the end of last year and I was told she had a new job within the team and couldn't be my cpn due to me now fitting that criteria. I was told a new cpn would again be assigned. A week ago she rang me after weeks of not seeing her due to various reasons including me being very physically ill and in hospital and her needing to reschedule. This week she rung to say she'd decided I should go onto this new team and commit to doing work in a group setting,despite saying it wasn't suited and that I've had severe social anxiety and many illnesses that prevent me doing so. I haven't left the house alone in many years and I'd say I'm 90% housebound hence her visiting me at home.
Anyway, I told her I couldn't commit to the group, wasn't capable physically and mentally and I'd just assumed I'd be getting the new cpn after our conversation last year.
She replied that she had heard me (rather stroppily) and the conversation ended. I told her a new cpn is more appropriate and she said she'd speak to her manager. She did and told me, 'She said you can be put on allocation list if you don't want to do the... ".
I'm peeved about the wording. It's not about' want'. It's about capability.
My cpn gets a new job and instead of introducing me to a new one back at the end of last year I'm now into Feb and going to be put on 'allocation list'.
My husband said I should write a complaint but I don't know what good it will do.
She text me to say she'd come see me but it won't be for another two weeks. I'm so low I can barely function.
What do you all think? X
 
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I think you have been treated very shabbily by the CPNs. They are stretched to breaking point at the moment, I know that, but still you clearly need help. What does your CPN do for you?

A gentle complaint might not be a bad idea though. It is something they have to investigate if they get one. I have complained in the past and whilst I got treated stroppily, still they did listen eventually. I don't know. You have to do what makes you feel most at ease.
 
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I think you have been treated very shabbily by the CPNs. They are stretched to breaking point at the moment, I know that, but still you clearly need help. What does your CPN do for you?

A gentle complaint might not be a bad idea though. It is something they have to investigate if they get one. I have complained in the past and whilst I got treated stroppily, still they did listen eventually. I don't know. You have to do what makes you feel most at ease.
Thank you replying. I appreciate it very much. I feel as though I've been a model patient. I've engaged with her, followed her advice, been welcoming to her when I find it hard and really worked on my self esteem.
I think what's so hard is she has been 'sacked' by others for her pushy attitude. Yet I've given her the benefit of the doubt and tried. Now, I'm being punished by having to be out on an allocation list because she's changing jobs. Especially when she knew months ago and said then she'd even suggested a certain new cpn as she would fit me perfectly. Now, I'm left in limbo.
She said she'd see me in two weeks but I'm nervous. I don't think she's happy I've said no to the group and asking for a new cpn because I can't do it.
I think I'm going to see what she says and if I feel animosity or like they're dragging their feet i may have to complain. It won't be a nasty one but I'm fed up.
I know they're stretched. It must be hard for them but I didn't ask for this and I'm being messed around.
I can feel my mood sinking and I can't ring her for support. She said I could but going on the reply it seemed like it would be reluctantly. To be honest if she's anything less than kind to me I'll break. I'm fragile right now. That's why I'm holding off with ringing.
I'll get dome sleep tonight and hopefully feel a bit brighter tomorrow.
Thank you again for your reply.
 
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I hope you sleep well tonight. Lack of sleep makes everything so much worse. Be sure to start any conversation with "I'm very fragile" so they know. You deserve a new CPN and group things are impossible for some people. Its another cost cutting thing to have a group. It has nothing to do with individual needs.
 
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I’ve been “on the allocation list” for months before and I completely get how you feel. In my case it was because my cpn did further training and specialised so similar situation. It’s very frustrating. They should prioritise though so it might help to be clear to them the help you need
 
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Thank you for the replies. I genuinely appreciate it. You're so kind.
I'm hoping to sleep but my mind is a bit chaotic. I'm putting my phone down after this.
I think you've helped me see I'm not over reacting and that I should make sure she hears how I feel. She's very good at saying she listens but in actual fact I'm not sure she does. Not really.
On her visit I'll be sure to say how fragile I am and ask a few questions. For example I want to know how long I'll be waiting because I thought the plan at the end of last year was a new cpn all along, so it seems unfair for me to be on a long list,especially given my need. I also want to know if she'll be seeing me until I get a new cpn.
I think it's worse because I have so many questions and can't see her for two weeks. It's frustrating. Maybe I'll write this down. It may help me.
I think I'm also angry that she may have worded it so as to make me seem like I was being awkward or not cooperating.
Anyway, I'm going to go try to sleep.
Thank you so much for replying. Honestly, I wasn't sure if anyone would. Xx Take care and sleep well.
 
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I hope you’re sleeping soundly and this message reaches you well rested in the morning
 
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