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Ollie

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The start of last year was a great change to me, i finished year 12, my mother moved away and i moved in with my dad, my best mate moved and I got a new job, then my train of though greatly changed and i feel there is something seriously wrong with me, heres a layout of whats going on can ANYONE HELP?

- Grade 6 got told i walk weirdly, became extremelly self consiouse about how i walk lasted for a couple of years eventually got over it who gives a damn right? gotta be unique in some ways.

I used to be such a confident funny person knew nearly everyone in my grade of around 120 people, was liked by everyone, could be myself, could hang out with whoever have long chats make jokes and was a pleasure to hang out with then it all changed...

- Start of 2009 got told that someone said I was boring (wasnt really close with that person)
Greatly effected me from then on always think about “does this person think im boring, or not good enough” (though i dont think this is the main reason to what has happened to me)


- This has even affected my relationship with my parents i feel uncomfortable dont know what to say dont know if their thinking whats wrong but after speaking to my mother the other day she said she hasnt noticed any change in me and thought until i opened up to her about how i was feeling... that i was a completely normal 18 year old

- Always thinking “whats this person thinking about me, do they like me, do they think im a complete idiot” never feel in my comfort zone cant never be myself (have my odd days 1in30)

- Had lunch with my 30 year old sister the other week i thought the entire time she wasnt listening to me, that she thought i wasnt what i used to be, and the whole time it was an awequard feeling but my mum later told me that she couldnt get over how mature and amazing I was.

Have become alot quieter, little confidence left (used to be such an outgoing confident funny person.

Hate one on one social interactions (unless its my best friend or gf) as i feel they are not listening to me or are rude to me & my mind blocks up i cannot think i cannot be myself.

Is beggining to really effect my life in many ways, feel like im losing it, such simple every day tasks are so nerveracking.

Whats the go?
 
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I wouldn't be right to speculate, nor am I qualified to diagnose, but it sounds like this is really affecting you, so my first question would be, have you talked to your doctor about these concerns, Ollie?

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Ollie

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Nope not yet... though I think I might go see to a councelor next week. Whos best to go to do you think? Councelor, Doctor or a Psychologist?
 
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They all have different input. Doctors usually diagnose and treat (medically) psychologist and counsellors do the psychosocial interventions. I'm guessing your in the states - things work differently in the UK the first point of contact is nearly always the GP (family doctor). If you have access to all of them, use them all!
 
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Moochacha

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Hi there, I see you're a very sensitive type, like me. My father always told me I was too sensitive, that I took things too seriously and was too easily hurt and upset.

Despite what you are experiencing, you are the same person you were when you were popular and outgoing. You haven't really changed.

What's changed is your PERCEPTION of who you are. That's all in your mind. You're creating a self-fulfilling prophesy and finding all the negative things in your interactions with people that you EXPECT to find. :scared:

We can't live our lives to please other people. The best way to be, is just ourselves. We must be happy with ourselves to have healthy relationships with others.

Change your view of yourself, and you'll attract better circumstances. The more you dwell on this "problem", the more it will become your sole point of focus and the worse things will get.

I recommend you do some EFT (an energy psychology) to release those self-doubts and turn things around before you make it any worse. It's simple and usually has very fast results.

Good luck
 
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Ollie

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Hi there, I see you're a very sensitive type, like me. My father always told me I was too sensitive, that I took things too seriously and was too easily hurt and upset.

Despite what you are experiencing, you are the same person you were when you were popular and outgoing. You haven't really changed.

What's changed is your PERCEPTION of who you are. That's all in your mind. You're creating a self-fulfilling prophesy and finding all the negative things in your interactions with people that you EXPECT to find. :scared:

We can't live our lives to please other people. The best way to be, is just ourselves. We must be happy with ourselves to have healthy relationships with others.

Change your view of yourself, and you'll attract better circumstances. The more you dwell on this "problem", the more it will become your sole point of focus and the worse things will get.

I recommend you do some EFT (an energy psychology) to release those self-doubts and turn things around before you make it any worse. It's simple and usually has very fast results.

Good luck
Yep i'm a virgo, they're typically sensitive people as im sure you probably know. My mother has been helping greatly she's a very "in-tune" person and believes thought and mindset is the cure to anything, plus Australian Bushflower Essences which I won't get into... with her help and the help of my good old friend google i've been trying to build my confidence up, stay happy, work on techniques to try and change my mind set but as soon as it gets better if I have one bad conversation or someone is overly rude to me... BAM back to point 1.

I might note when I began feeling this "difference" my sister said I may have anxiety, when she told me about that I developed abit of anxiety then I got told I might have depression and it developed into abit of depression and the anxiety went away... so i guess changing my view would work wonders, for if I believe I had nothing, then I wouldnt think about it and be back to my old selve? theoretically anyway(y)

Anyways I went to my dads family friend whos a doctor and he took some blood tests & made an appointment with a psych to see whats going on. I'll see what they say!
 
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