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DyingAngel

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Im struggling with everything right now, especially self harm, I cant seem to stop myself. When I do it its never enough and im finding it harder as I need to do it more and more. I don't know how to stop ive been doing it over 10 years
 
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First off, my heart goes out to you. Although I haven't self harmed in years, I struggled with self harm when I was in high school.

Everyone's situation is different, but for me personally, I always self harmed in attempt to gain sympathy or attention from my FP at the time. I get that when you're feeling down and stuck in a negative mindset, it can be extremely difficult to get out.

Are you currently in therapy? If not, I highly suggest looking into doing a virtual session with someone trained in mood disorders, or if you're not financially able, there are other, low cost, alternatives like BetterHealth or Talkspace.

I find that sometimes it helps to force yourself to move from your current environment (even if it seems futile) even if it's simply going for a walk or putting on some music and dancing around. Please don't give up on yourself, you are loved and so valuable. I believe in you, and this feeling won't last forever, I promise!
 
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Hi,
Please get help for your self-harm, are you under a crisis team? Please phone if you are.
Do you have a CPN contact them if you do.
If you have no services input phone your GP tomorrow morning.
Try distraction see if it helps.
We're here to listen and care.
Please keep us updated
 
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Thinking about you Angel, we are here to listen and we want you to feel better x
 
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thank you all

it appears I have been refered to the specialist mental heath team, the wait is at least 6 months. I tried saying I might not be then but they just said I can call the crisis line which dnt help. se told me that I didn't feel how I do but said I need bereavement counselling which im not ready for. weren't to bothered that I self harm daily. im starting to think that don't actually care and think im attention seeking or something. my gp is brilliant and seeing me 3 times a week, shes so helpful and very kind.

I give up fighting for help they just aren't bothered. my injuries were infected but the nurse just had ago at me for not taking my anti biotics but im struggling to take any meds atm.
 
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If you have infections please take your antibiotics. They not be awful right now but those can get really bad and you definitely want to try to keep them in check. That is a long wait but hopefully it’ll be helpful once you get services. It’s probably not that they don’t care but that the services are so overwhelmed with lots of people. You could look for other options in the meantime, maybe ask your GP for options until the waitlist is done. I’ve used Talkspace before, it’s not as good as in person but it helped. It’s an app. You can text the therapist whenever you want and then when they are free they will respond to all the texts from that day or whatever. You can try crisis lines too. It might seem like they don’t help but if they at least distract you for a sec that’s helping.
 
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Yeah what Esther says, I think they do care, they're just overwhelmed by demand. It's great that your GP is seeing you a lot and will be good for you. And definitely try to take your antibiotics, I know it's hard but it will be for the best in the long run x
 
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Hi,
Please take your antibiotics, try taking with a favourite drink and something to eat.
I'm sorry the wait is so long and crisis weren't that helpful.
Hope we can help.
Does something trigger you?
Hugs
 
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Im struggling with everything right now, especially self harm, I cant seem to stop myself. When I do it its never enough and im finding it harder as I need to do it more and more. I don't know how to stop ive been doing it over 10 years
Will power. You need to will for it to stop, self harming is not an addiction but it can be. It takes guts to do it. You just have to try harder and be more determined to change your life.
 
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