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Struggling tonight, trying not to text an ex.

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Fancyharm

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Arh thank you. You are lovely XxxxX

I am setting myself a target today. I'm going to not reply or send text messages for at least a week.

I'm going to tune in every day and tell the forum of my progress.

Even if he is dying, I'm still not going to reply.

I'm still feeling like I have broken away big time which is good. But I want to build good habits and this is going to start with no texting.
 
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So fed up tonight. I'm not tempted to text but I'm just so wishing I could have a nice relationship with someone that cares about me and doesn't use me.

I just feel rubbish.
 
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I suppose the next week ahead has achievements to be gained, resisting temptation. I have had harder times and got through.

I feel so weak sometimes.

I had someone male send me some messages on social media, someone that just latched onto me. I've blocked him. I'm not going to get involved with some random male, usually I would just be polite, but that's not happening, I'm not getting involved.

If I want to talk I'm using the forum, where I feel safe. Also I know the forum is always there, day or night.
 
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n yeah
how many have gone as far as the bedroom
because of feeling weak and polite

and ' feeling sorry for the person ' !

:hug5:
 
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Honestly all I want to do in the form of talking is to use the forum. No more getting someone latching onto me and controlling me.

I just want a break from 'user's', like for the rest of my life.

At least by blocking the social media person I realised the start of a possible pattern of my behaviour.
 
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oh yes that is a huge step
there was one guy I put his email into spam folder
so that future emails from him would register as spam
and not be visible to me

and I told him I didnt want any contact with him,

I had totally regretted my fling with him
I really didnt have any proper feelings for him

and he seemed to want to remind me of it
each time I bumped into him
 
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Fancyharm

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Well I've had a couple of days of receiving no texts and it's nice. Nice not to have to be reading negative rubbish.

Hopefully this will set me up for building my good habit of no texting.

I feel so low and as if I have mentally fallen into a black hole when I text. Then to receive nothing but a negative answer is not good.
 
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yay for Fancyharms

becoming her own person !

:loveshower: :loveshower: :loveshower: 🌠
 
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I appreciate you also
we are all helping each other to get stronger

:hug5: 🌠
 
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Fancyharm

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Thank god there is some goodness in the world for me. And I can also give it back to the forum members which is great.

Well as you know it's Sunday. A bit of a middle of my goal for not texting. I'm not too bad. Occupying myself with my crochet and some grooming!!!! Well, conditioner on my hair for a couple of hours!!!!

I have lots of bits around the house to do that can keep me occupied, tidying cupboards, general housework, gardening, etc, to reach my goal. But I've found that when occupying myself it is good to not use up too much energy. Letting go of the habit of texting someone that is not doing me any good is stressful and uses lots of emotional energy.

That's why I like the crochet, I sit down and relax while occupying myself.
 
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great stuff Fancyharms !

I remember reading a magazine article about a break up
and she said how much she was enjoying her freedom
having the flat the way she wanted
and sprinkling pot pourri about

bringing in new scents and music
can help to enhance your new life

putting new pictures on the wall

and oh yes this :

 
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Fancyharm

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Well I've got through Sunday! Wahay!

Thanks for the Sheryl Crow vid. That's so fab. I will listen properly tomorrow and check out the lyrics.

I'm so thrilled I've got through Sunday.

There's lots to do next week. I've been suffering with IBS for the last few weeks but it is much better now, so I'm going to do some jobs around the house tomorrow.

I'm really thrilled with my progress and everyone's help, thank you all so much xx❤
 
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