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Struggling tonight, trying not to text an ex.

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I believe that there is a place for modern medicine in all fields, but I think that mental health requires alternative methods too, like learning about a condition and how it works and also by using replacement methods etc.

Years ago people 'coped' with lots of conditions that we have today. And they coped without modern medicine. Maybe they coped by chatting to relatives (no tv in those days) by taking up a craft, by getting the household chores completed etc, a whole array of things. I think that in the modern world we lost a lot of the 'old tried and tested' coping mechanisms and it's now that people are struggling (for instance being addicted to prescription medication) that they are turning to the 'old tried and tested' ways once again.
Nice to hear your weekend going well and i am really pleased for you :hug: it's great news.

Your right about learning about conditions as i've always done it and the ones highlighted i've studied even further as the old saying goes "knowledge is power"

Yes years back they just got on with it and struggled through pain but they did have neighbours they was involved with where they could chat.

:thanks: fancyharm, i keep saying this to my hubby they're advancing in technology but regarding peoples living conditions for the working glass they're throwing them back to old times..we'll be on coupons before you know it :rolleyes: xxx
 
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I hope that this Sunday brings me as much strength as last Sunday.

In fact I am beginning to wonder what I ever felt I had in common with the ex. What a disappointment he is.
 
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n yeah I went through those feelings
what did I ever see in them

then a later stage came
where Im usually able to chat to them in town
if I pass by

but have no shred of romantic feeling left for them
not everyone does that though
most people need a fully clean break

well done for your progress !

:hug5: 🌠
 
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The stages you mention are interesting. But I would definitely prefer a clean break.

I seem to be more fed up that it's raining and I can't get a few outside jobs done. Never mind, there is always next week.

I think I have definitely turned a corner, the blip last week was a blip by the look of things.

I'm so much happier, and the forum members have to take some of the credit for that, I am so grateful to you all.

Here's to checking in later with more positive progress. ❤❤❤❤
 
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Well I have managed to get through the weekend. Wahay!👍👍👍👍

It wasn't as difficult as I thought.

Thank god I seem to be getting sorted. I never want this to happen to me again, it's been horrible.

I have allowed myself to be treated like rubbish. I know it's my own fault but I suppose I thought someone would do the decent thing and be respectful in such a situation.

I know I keep saying it but I am so grateful for the help through the forum. I think the fact that I have made myself put the problem 'out there' has made it real and I have woken up to what is going on.

When I think about how I have been treated, well I would be ashamed and dissapointed in myself if I were to treat anyone the same. I am so much better and I deserve better. It is so fabulous to have realised that last sentence.

I'm just glad I'm not his girlfriend who he has had 'dangling on a string' for 20 years!!!! I know, whatever made me think I would be treated with decency knowing that.

I'm looking forward to to tomorrow. I have jobs to do, which equals satisfaction.
 
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Well I got through the weekend thankfully without texting.

I have just phoned to see when my artificial eye is going to be ready and they gave me an estimation of beginning of November.

So that's not good news as I will have to wear this temporary eye for another 4 weeks which is not good. But I will just have to wait, there is nothing I can do. I will be ok but that also means I will have to wait to look for a job as I just don't feel myself until I get my custom made eye.

Oh well. At least I have the forum members to chat to while I am at home.

I would love to do some decorating but I'm not going to stress my socket, this temporary eye doesn't fit properly and I'm not risking infection or even worse stress to the implant that has taken two 3.5 to 4 hr operations to get right.

I will have to crack on with my crochet.
 
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Had a blip tonight. I sent a text. But even though my feelings felt quite empty.

And I didn't enjoy it either. I suppose 6 days is good. I will just have to try and break my record next time.

Oh well, I'm getting there I suppose. And I got through the weekend which was a big thing for me.

I think once I have my eye sorted and I get a job I will be better. Perhaps finding I have another 4 week wait for my eye threw me a bit. It's been February since I have felt complete, I haven't had a custom made eye since then when I had my first operation. It's a long time to feel incomplete. But I'm getting there and at least it's only 4 weeks.
 
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n yeah its quite addictive isn't it
and maybe we idolise people like that
and make them something they are not isn't it

well done for cutting back though
you will get there

:hug5: 💜 🌠
 
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Thanks Zoe1.

I'm seeing it as a blip not a total failure and back to square one which is good.

You are so right, that's what I have done, idolised someone and made them something they are not. I realise that now he only existed as nice in my head.

I'm so glad you pointed that out, I thought that a while back, but I'm confused still so I just thought it was me. Thank you xx

I will get there, I'm doing really well to be honest compared to how I was.
 
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yes I think you are on track

I have been there. and to be honest I could still go there
if I stop communicating with other people

:hug5: 💜
 
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Well you have done really well.

And I think it is important to replace the temptation, I have done that replacement by keeping in contact with the forum and the majority of the time it works.

You have done really well and you should be proud of yourself. ❤❤❤
 
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Well I'm doing ok again. No texting.

I got carried away yesterday with housework etc and a new crochet jumper! So I didn't check in.

Body clock a bit better. I have done an hour earlier 2 days running.

Love to you all XxxxX❤❤❤
 
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