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Struggling Today

Coreen

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For the past few weeks, friends and family have not responded to texts I sent. I simply asked how they were doing. Yesterday was my sisters birthday. I wished her well and asked how she was. She never responded. I felt very hurt by that. I've had enough. And I received some news yesterday that shook the foundations of my core beliefs. It's made me feel more alone and like nothing ever will improve. I'm doomed to have people ignore me and live a lonely life. I'm not imagining that people don't like me. Six out of the 12 people I sent messages to didn't respond.

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I've felt very depressed. On a scale from 1 to 10 with 10 being "go to the ER", I've felt an 8. It started to creep up to a 10 but then I called my mom. She suggested I think of my cats. That seemed to help some.
 
Coreen

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Thank you! I'm doing better now. I made sure to get plenty of sleep. Sleep resets me. I also did a lot of journaling. I found an article on how to let go of resentment. That helped me a lot. I'm just going to accept the fact that I don't really have people or a support system in my life. I do have my mom. She's good about being there when I need someone.
 
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I feel the same way sometimes. Everyone is busy with there life. And I’m just the person that just gets on peoples nerves. Calling them. Feeling really low and have for a while now. But like u sed I have my mum too.
 
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Don't rely on people to make you happy. There are a million reasons why they did not respond.
 
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Focusing on your pets definitely helps. Are there any local support groups in your area? It’s good that you have your Mom, but important to have backups too. My Mom was always my rock and now she is terminally ill and in a nursing home. It has turned my world upside down and now I really wish I had not relied so much on her all these years for my own mental health. I recently put myself back in therapy to try to cope a bit better. Wishing you the best and sorry you’re going through this.
 
Hillman hunter

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Hi, I agree, our pets are wonderful, we love them,
Please hang on in there,
 
Hillman hunter

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Thank you! I'm doing better now. I made sure to get plenty of sleep. Sleep resets me. I also did a lot of journaling. I found an article on how to let go of resentment. That helped me a lot. I'm just going to accept the fact that I don't really have people or a support system in my life. I do have my mom. She's good about being there when I need someone.
Hi, I agree, our pets are wonderful, I have a rabbit and two cats,
Please look after yourself and take care
 
Coreen

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Thank you! I don't have a support group but I do have an online therapist. She's been very helpful. I still haven't heard from anyone. I won't reach out again. It's bothersome to send texts and get no reply. I don't care what the reason is. It's downright rude and inconsiderate. I deleted a couple of people from my phone. I don't care to have them in my life.

My goal in reaching out to all those people was to try and make connections. I just have to face it... it's not going to happen. At least I tried. I do have my step mom too. So I'm glad about that. And my uncle is pretty cool.
 
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Don't rely on people to make you happy. There are a million reasons why they did not respond.
It's not that I'm relying on people to make me happy... I am in control of my own happiness. Most times I choose to be calm, relaxed and content. It's just that I get lonely from time to time because I have no friends and my family isn't really around. I think it's normal to want people in your life. And it is frustrating when no one responds... all perfectly normal feelings.
 
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I think it's normal to want people in your life. And it is frustrating when no one responds... all perfectly normal feelings.
Hi Coreen, I'm very familiar with such feelings, probably why I don't have friends in real life lol

It's good to read you have some support from people :)
 
Hillman hunter

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Hi, I agree, our pets are wonderful, I have a rabbit and two cats,
Please look after yourself and take care
:flowers:hi coreen, glad your feeling better, sleep is so important to us, when im poorly I don't sleep and its horrible. that's really good your mom is there for you, take care
 
Coreen

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Hi, I agree, our pets are wonderful, I have a rabbit and two cats,
Please look after yourself and take care
Yes, pets are pretty special. My Jazzy is a miracle cat. It helps so much when I think of how she was rescued from a busy highway. My nephew found her and I gave her a home. She likes to crawl up into my arms when I'm on the computer. And I have her special bed in my bed. She will crawl in there when I sleep and purr. Makes me feel less lonely. And Nyke will usually come join us and pick a spot next to Jazzy's bed.
 
Hillman hunter

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Yes, pets are pretty special. My Jazzy is a miracle cat. It helps so much when I think of how she was rescued from a busy highway. My nephew found her and I gave her a home. She likes to crawl up into my arms when I'm on the computer. And I have her special bed in my bed. She will crawl in there when I sleep and purr. Makes me feel less lonely. And Nyke will usually come join us and pick a spot next to Jazzy's bed.
Yes, pets are pretty special. My Jazzy is a miracle cat. It helps so much when I think of how she was rescued from a busy highway. My nephew found her and I gave her a home. She likes to crawl up into my arms when I'm on the computer. And I have her special bed in my bed. She will crawl in there when I sleep and purr. Makes me feel less lonely. And Nyke will usually come join us and pick a spot next to Jazzy's bed.
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Ah that's lovely, your cats sound beautiful, mine have favourite places and special miows when they want fuss

Your a good friend to them,jazzy sounds lovely and nyke too🐱
 
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