Struggling to talk

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My adopted mum is my full time carer she also works full time, I find it hard at times telling her things because I worry I am taking up her time as she goes to work then comes home and comes to deals with me and she is not well herself she has fibromyalgia

She gets frustrated with me a lot because I tell her dont worry or dont care I'll be ok even thought I'm not ok cause I dont want to stress her out

I have started to self harm again because I cant talk to her because she has so much going on and it's not fair her coping with it all

What do I do is there anything I can do I dont have a therapist as I cant trust people I dont have anyone else as I dont go out unless with my mummy. It's a real shit time I'm going through x
 
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Hi,
Glad you've found us, we have many members with BPD.
I'm sure your mum doesn't think your taking up her time. I have fibromyalgia so sympathise.
Hope you find support here.
Take care
 
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Keep talking on here, even if you just want someone to listen :hug: I'm glad you're here :hug:
 
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Hi,
Glad you've found us, we have many members with BPD.
I'm sure your mum doesn't think your taking up her time. I have fibromyalgia so sympathise.
Hope you find support here.
Take care
Thank you x I dont just have BPD I have Autism and many other mental health problems but thank you
 
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Keep talking on here, even if you just want someone to listen :hug: I'm glad you're here :hug:
Thank you, I am very scared as it's new but I dont have anyone who understand as the people I met from therapy when I was able to go dont speak anymore to me
 
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JimJam28 its great you've joined us here.
You will get support from likeminded people who know what its like living with mental illness.
 
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As a mum myself believe me youll never be too much for her , she loves you
that is lovely
to the original poster
my mummy was my carer for years ,from age 11 when i got unwell until she died 3 and a half years ago
she loved me so much ,i could feel it and she wanted to do it ,she wouldn't have it any other way and she was really ill herself physically with heart failure/fluid on the lungs/empesyma
but i know she wanted to take care of me otherwise i wouldn't have let her
and i bet it is the same for your adopted mum-she wants to do it
lots of love Lu x
 
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that is lovely
to the original poster
my mummy was my carer for years ,from age 11 when i got unwell until she died 3 and a half years ago
she loved me so much ,i could feel it and she wanted to do it ,she wouldn't have it any other way and she was really ill herself physically with heart failure/fluid on the lungs/empesyma
but i know she wanted to take care of me otherwise i wouldn't have let her
and i bet it is the same for your adopted mum-she wants to do it
lots of love Lu x
I no she does it cause she cares so much and like she tells me she does it cause she loves me and because I am her rock like she is mine just at times i struggle i panic and get really stressed and i push her away she says but i feel i am just to much for her... like she has to organise my appointment otherwise I wouldn't go and I dont go alone because I'm so scared like tomorrow and next week I have both hospital

I couldn't love my mummy anymore then I do just feel so guilty specially at the moment... she sees thought me like I'm a book x

I'm sorry to hear about your mum I no the pain you feel x
 

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