• Welcome! It’s great to see you.

    If you'd like to talk with people who know what it's like

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life.

struggling to cope.....whats wrong with me??

S

sarahbelle

Member
Joined
Mar 1, 2009
Messages
10
Location
uk
hi, ive never done this before so please bear with me.

im 23 years old, and im at the end of my tether.
its so hard to explain things, the way i feel, as ive always kept it to myself.

i grew up with a mother who was manic deppressive and alcoholic and always in and out of hospital after many ODs. My dad left her you see and she just got sicker and sicker. Me and my sister took on the role of mothers carer, checking on her in the night, counting all the tablets, dressing her and cleaning her up when she was too wasted, and of course we new exactley the drill with 999. i was badly bullied all through school, i cried all the time. i engaged in dangerous relationships with older men from the age of 12 and had 2 abortions at the ages of 15 and 16, i used alot of recreational drugs to ease feelings of emptiness and loneliness, and just to feel different for a change, with drugs came a circle of friends, ones who were too battered on pills and acid to notice my flaws. I began harming myself at about 16, it started with scalding and when that didnt work any more id use saftey pins, glass, razors, anything i could get my hands on at the time.
i feel like my life since then has been like one crisis to the next, i have always been in a relationship since i was 12. i was living rough,my brother died, i got married, i had an affair, he beat me, i left him, ive had 16 different addresses in the last 5 years.

im still self harming but not with cutting, ive started picking my skin especially on the scalp, that way noone can see it, i know its bad for me and its probably infected but i cant stop, i need to do it, and it realxes me. my lymphnode behind my ear is now swollen and painful probably due to infection. i cant sleep at all, im going with out food for days sometimes and iv lost all intrest in the world.

im not always just depresive, i have periods where im off the wall with energy and enthusiasm and my sex drive becomes insatable all i wannt to do is socialise and party, with anyone, with strangers, ive found myself in many unsafe situations id noramlly avoid like the plague. then theres the guilt and shame the days following where i cant stand seeing anyone and am so embaressed.
i was arrested in november for the first time ever, i dont remember it happening, but when i woke up in the cells stripped and covered in bruises i was so scared.

most of the time though i dont leave the house unless i absolutlely have to, the last time i left the house was 9 days ago, and i have to go to uni tommorow. The bus is a huge problem as is the busyness at uni. panic attacks are still here even though im taking citalopram at the moment, i dont think its helping. i cant explain things to the doctor its too complicated and im sure they think im lying.

i just hate myself, i hate being me, i look at all the people my age having fun with out a care and i envy them, i try to join in but i have to put on an act and im sure they see through me. i feel so desperate and alone.
what the hell is wrong with me!!!
 
KP1

KP1

Well-known member
Founding Member
Joined
Apr 4, 2008
Messages
1,500
Hi Sarah Belle that was a very brave introduction. You desparately need help can you go back to your GP and get a referral for a mental health assessment and some support.
It must have been so difficult for you supporting your mum and now you need some support and help for yourself.
Welcome to the forum.
KP
 
D

Dollit

Guest
Print off your first post and take it to your GP and talk honestly. No one here can diagnose what's wrong with you - no medic worth talking to would make a diagnosis over the internet and, as far as I know, there are no medics on here.

Give yourself a break and remember that though out past shapes the person we are today it doesn't have to dominate our future.
 
S

sarahbelle

Member
Joined
Mar 1, 2009
Messages
10
Location
uk
thank you for your posts.

im gunna try get to the doctors at some stage this week. the tip on printing it out is a good idea.
 
T

tanya

Member
Joined
Mar 5, 2009
Messages
5
Location
suffolk
hi sarah

hi, ive never done this before so please bear with me.

im 23 years old, and im at the end of my tether.
its so hard to explain things, the way i feel, as ive always kept it to myself.

i grew up with a mother who was manic deppressive and alcoholic and always in and out of hospital after many ODs. My dad left her you see and she just got sicker and sicker. Me and my sister took on the role of mothers carer, checking on her in the night, counting all the tablets, dressing her and cleaning her up when she was too wasted, and of course we new exactley the drill with 999. i was badly bullied all through school, i cried all the time. i engaged in dangerous relationships with older men from the age of 12 and had 2 abortions at the ages of 15 and 16, i used alot of recreational drugs to ease feelings of emptiness and loneliness, and just to feel different for a change, with drugs came a circle of friends, ones who were too battered on pills and acid to notice my flaws. I began harming myself at about 16, it started with scalding and when that didnt work any more id use saftey pins, glass, razors, anything i could get my hands on at the time.
i feel like my life since then has been like one crisis to the next, i have always been in a relationship since i was 12. i was living rough,my brother died, i got married, i had an affair, he beat me, i left him, ive had 16 different addresses in the last 5 years.

im still self harming but not with cutting, ive started picking my skin especially on the scalp, that way noone can see it, i know its bad for me and its probably infected but i cant stop, i need to do it, and it realxes me. my lymphnode behind my ear is now swollen and painful probably due to infection. i cant sleep at all, im going with out food for days sometimes and iv lost all intrest in the world.

im not always just depresive, i have periods where im off the wall with energy and enthusiasm and my sex drive becomes insatable all i wannt to do is socialise and party, with anyone, with strangers, ive found myself in many unsafe situations id noramlly avoid like the plague. then theres the guilt and shame the days following where i cant stand seeing anyone and am so embaressed.
i was arrested in november for the first time ever, i dont remember it happening, but when i woke up in the cells stripped and covered in bruises i was so scared.

most of the time though i dont leave the house unless i absolutlely have to, the last time i left the house was 9 days ago, and i have to go to uni tommorow. The bus is a huge problem as is the busyness at uni. panic attacks are still here even though im taking citalopram at the moment, i dont think its helping. i cant explain things to the doctor its too complicated and im sure they think im lying.

i just hate myself, i hate being me, i look at all the people my age having fun with out a care and i envy them, i try to join in but i have to put on an act and im sure they see through me. i feel so desperate and alone.
what the hell is wrong with me!!!
reading your introduction is like looking in a mirror my life was the same as yours at 23 i nevr went to my gp incase they thought i was mad and locked me away but i am so glad i went i got the support i needed and the right medication im 42 now and happy at last i wish you all the best the people on this forum sound so nice i wish the best
 
Similar threads
Thread starter Title Forum Replies Date
Annalisejo Struggling to cope feeling overwhelmed Introduce Yourself 9
T Hi I'm new here and I seem to be.struggling with so many emotions the past week. Introduce Yourself 8
F Young girl struggling with life’s challenges Introduce Yourself 8
P Struggling with physical and emotional health Introduce Yourself 4
S Struggling Introduce Yourself 8
Sadgurl Struggling Introduce Yourself 6
S Newbie struggling with severe intrusive thoughts. Introduce Yourself 5
C Hi Im new here. Really struggling at the moment Introduce Yourself 7
M Struggling .. Introduce Yourself 7
L New to this and really struggling! Introduce Yourself 2
N After psychosis: struggling to process and accept. Introduce Yourself 2
D Struggling Introduce Yourself 2
T I am struggling lately due to return of agoraphobia and depression. Introduce Yourself 2
C Parent of someone who has Bpd and struggling Introduce Yourself 20
R Struggling husband dealing with my wife’s illness, she says she wants me out the house , then week later doesn’t , I don’t know how to take it Introduce Yourself 7
M Struggling mom Introduce Yourself 4
J Bipolar and struggling Introduce Yourself 4
D New here and struggling with wife’s attacks Introduce Yourself 3
M I just joined.. almost give up after getting so frustrated struggling .signing up ! Introduce Yourself 8
O Struggling at this time Introduce Yourself 5
D Hi I’m new 😊 I’m struggling at this time. Introduce Yourself 2
kilroywashere21 I’ve Been Struggling With Bipolar Disorder Since 2015 Introduce Yourself 1
S Wife of BPD and struggling Introduce Yourself 2
T Hi I’m still ashamed of myself and struggling Introduce Yourself 10
A Hi - really struggling with anxiety :( Introduce Yourself 4
B Hello struggling with self isolation Introduce Yourself 5
T Strength coach struggling with BPD Introduce Yourself 8
S Struggling after BPD relationship Introduce Yourself 3
B Struggling. Introduce Yourself 33
A New here, first post. Really really struggling alone in my story. Introduce Yourself 28
R Struggling in Kansas City. Introduce Yourself 2
I Struggling introvert & highly sensitive person Introduce Yourself 4
T New here struggling with reality Introduce Yourself 15
A I'm new and struggling. Introduce Yourself 6
P Hi guys! I'm sorta struggling, but this might a temporary step backwards Introduce Yourself 1
L Im really struggling Introduce Yourself 22
B hello struggling... Introduce Yourself 4
N Hi everyone. I’m new, and I am struggling. Introduce Yourself 52
D How to cope Introduce Yourself 21
M Trying to cope with bad neighbours Introduce Yourself 8
ipanema Trying to cope with anxiety and depression Introduce Yourself 3
T MDD and mixed personality disorder can’t cope Introduce Yourself 4
J Whats wrong with me? Introduce Yourself 8

Similar threads

Top