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Stressing over seeing family and being in public

siamesetwins

siamesetwins

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So I am supposed to be going out for a family meal tomorrow that I didn't know about until yesterday. Only thing is I really like to be prepared in advance (probably something to do with being autistic and also my crappy memory. I like to be reminded multiple times). I want to go because I haven't seen my cousins in a long time but I am also super anxious about it. Does anyone have any tips to not get worked up about these things? Like stuff I am unprepared for. I know it seems very trivial but I really don't want to go but at the same time I do. I want to cancel because I'm already overwhelmed from all the socialising over christmas but I know I'll feel guilty and left out if I stop myself.

I don't know if I should go or not :/ like it might cause a last minute freak out idk what to wear and I feel kind of ugly. I don't like my skin at the minute and not wearing a mask makes me uncomfortable. Just lots of things putting me off plus I have no escape route because I won't be driving. Ugh. I really don't know what to do
 
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Orangeade

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So I am supposed to be going out for a family meal tomorrow that I didn't know about until yesterday. Only thing is I really like to be prepared in advance (probably something to do with being autistic and also my crappy memory. I like to be reminded multiple times). I want to go because I haven't seen my cousins in a long time but I am also super anxious about it. Does anyone have any tips to not get worked up about these things? Like stuff I am unprepared for. I know it seems very trivial but I really don't want to go but at the same time I do. I want to cancel because I'm already overwhelmed from all the socialising over christmas but I know I'll feel guilty and left out if I stop myself.

I don't know if I should go or not :/ like it might cause a last minute freak out idk what to wear and I feel kind of ugly. I don't like my skin at the minute and not wearing a mask makes me uncomfortable. Just lots of things putting me off plus I have no escape route because I won't be driving. Ugh. I really don't know what to do
I suffer with bad anxiety and i find cold air helps me. I have a fan on me before i go places and take deep breaths. But obviously when im out, i take a water bottle and focus on the coldness when i drink it as it helps ground me. I dont know if rhis will help you, but it helps me slightly. Sending you love and hoping we can provide some answers
 
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