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Stressed and not sure what to do

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RiffRaffy

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Not sure what to do with myself. I've been under a lot of stress recently and feel like I cant cope with everything on my plate. I have an ongoing court case, buying a flat/moving into it, stressful job and a relative has recently passed away. Have spent the last month organising their funeral, which meant frequently travelling 80 odd miles there and the same back again. I'm worn out, haven't slept properly in ages and feel like I cant manage everything. I've also found that my anxiety is through the roof and I've seen a huge increase in the amount of panic attacks I've been having. I've been in tears at work the last few days because I'm struggling so much. My colleagues have been asking me what's wrong due to my low mood being so noticeable, which isn't like me.
I am seriously thinking about asking my GP to sign me off sick with stress or something, but I've never done this before. Not sure how to go about asking or what to expect. I don't want to seem like a fraud or skiver either, but there is so much going on right now that I genuinely feel like something needs to give. I feel like I'm trying to fit everything round my already too stressful job right now, and unfortunately I'm not able to slow down on any of the other things going on. One of the worst things is (it worries me hugely) is that I'm not able to concentrate properly, and I feel this is having an effect on my work. Not good when I look after others. I'm terrified of making a mistake that could do someone harm.

any advice would be great.

thanks
 
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fidget

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Go talk to your gp Riffraffy, some time off could do you the world of good. It is scary having to admit we are not coping but it is far better to realise this now and take action to change things than keep pushing yourself until you fully break down. Don't worry about looking like a fraud or skiver, you won't, just explain clearly everything that is going on and how you are feeling, explain that you aren't coping and need some time off. It is worth considering booking a double appointment so you have time to talk things through properly with the doctor. And if you are worried about being able to explain everything at the appointment then it can be a good idea to write everything down and hand it to your doctor. You could even just print out what you have written here. Good luck, I think it is a good idea to get signed off for a bit, you have a lot to contend with and need some time to recover :hug1:
 
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natalie

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I am in agreement, it would be prudent for you to seek advice from a professional such as a GP, and also get a sick note for time off sick.


Also, if you are lucky to get the time, off, how about if you could try listening to some music, and or also, to get in some regular exercise. Exercise is a great stress reliever, for me, it's working out to fitness dvds in at home.


So I think it definitely would be advisable for you to see your GP. They might be able to refer you to a mental health community team, who could be able to take your case and you would have to be referred on - further.


I wish you well, in the hope you'll recover with some time off.
 
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RiffRaffy

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Thank you both for replying. I am going to ask my gp to sign me off sick. Have an appointment tomorrow. Still feeling very nervous about asking, however. Especially as I have had to take a couple of days off due to a bad back :low: Just hoping they don't think it's an excuse. I intend to ask for more pain relief as well as mine ran out ages ago.
I think writing a list would be a good idea as I often struggle to explain how I feel. It usually only becomes apparent when I lose plot and burst into tears,which doesn't happen often in front of others. Though in this instance I hope it does.
Wish me luck. fingers crossed for a workable outcome
 
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natalie

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I'm glad you have an appointment, I wish you well with the appointment.
 
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