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"Stop Worrying"

UnderR

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Don't you just get so annoyed whenever someone says that to you?

I get that not everybody understands how a person with anxiety feels but I find it a bit ignorant for them to not see how differently people with anxiety process their thoughts.

Whenever I'm having an anxiety episode, some of my friends would often just say to me 'Calm down' or 'Stop worrying so much.' And I find that infuriating.

Though I'd say that 90% of my problems wouldn't exist if I didn't worry so much, telling a person with anxiety to stop worrying is kind of like telling a person on fire to stop burning. While true, these both are solutions to the problems we're dealing with, we can't just do that because a lot of the things we feel are kind of out of our control.

Dunno, maybe I'm too emotional, maybe my thoughts are a bit irrational, meh. People who tell me to stop worrying piss me off.
 
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i get that completely, people mean well but say , 'don't worry'
and i say ,could you stop a bad leg from hurting? no
i don't get the difference ,both are illnesses and with severe anxiety it just is not possible to switch it off just like that x hugs x Lu x
 
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I agree. Also folks who to tell me 'Smile'.

I was on the train - as we waiting to disembark - a train staff told me smile. Like you it makes me feel annoyed.
 
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i get that completely, people mean well but say , 'don't worry'
and i say ,could you stop a bad leg from hurting? no
i don't get the difference ,both are illnesses and with severe anxiety it just is not possible to switch it off just like that x hugs x Lu x
Exactly!!!! 🙏
 
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I agree. Also folks who to tell me 'Smile'.

I was on the train - as we waiting to disembark - a train staff told me smile. Like you it makes me feel annoyed.
I've been told that too.

"You should smile more."

"You should wear less makeup."

"Stop over thinking things."

...WHY DON'T YOU SHUT YOUR PIE HOLES, VERBAL VOMIT PEOPLE!?
 
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Stop worrying? Why didn't I think of that? If only it were that simple , eh? I'd love to stop but just doesn't work that way. So annoying.
 
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I HATE when somebody is saying this to me. Like, tf dude, why didn't I think of that before
 
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Today, my friend asked me why am i stressed out? All the external stuff is unremarkable. I told her I can't control stress, the problem is inside me, how i deal with it. She suggested me to start enjoying the stress and turn into adrenaline ridden fun ride. I mean I would if I could.
 
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She suggested me to start enjoying the stress and turn into adrenaline ridden fun ride. I mean I would if I could.
That's an interesting way to see things. Instead of suffering through the stress, just embrace it. Let the stress be your energy. Hmm.
 
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maybe my thoughts are a bit irrational
If you hit yourself every time you make a mistake you will begin to fear yourself

that fear will show up as worry, nervousness, anxiety, etc...
 
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Yes, I hate it when people say that stuff too. The main ones I get are "you should smile more", "stop overthinking", "you're being dramatic, others have it worse than you". Like no shit there are others that suffer worse mental disorders than me, but that doesn't make what I'm feeling less irrelevant. I can't help overthinking shit, I honestly wish I could but I've had so much drama in my life concerning some family/friends that I can't stop when it comes to other shit now.

Whenever someone says those sorta things to me now, I just sorta go bit heartless/cold now coz none of them wanna hear what I have to say when I try explaining stuff anyways :low:
 
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anxiety and excitement are very closely related
Yes. There is positive stress (that gives us motivation, makes us more alert, gives us an adrenalin rush, etc) and negative stress (fear, depressive-anxiety, panic, etc).
 
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They propably mean it in a positive way but don't understand that its not that simple.
Heard that comment lots and it drove me up the wall :curseyou:
 
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