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Starting a new relationship worries

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Jaydet

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Oct 5, 2018
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So ive become involved with a lovely boy, honestly amazing, but i have reservations about starting a new relationship, like when I have an episode, is able to handle it? Im worried it will scare him off. Anyone got any advice?
 
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BPD&twenties

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Nov 6, 2018
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We never know

The only way to find out os to try!

Some questions you might ask yourself: What is it that you like about this guy? Does he seem understanding? What draws you to him?

I believe that if he likes you then he won't be scared off. You haven't chosen this. It isn't your fault that you have BPD.

I hope you that you can figure this one out <3
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soulsearcher

soulsearcher

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just be honest with him and hopefully he'll accept you the way you are...

having BPD isnt easy most the time but we just got to keep trying hard to overcome the issues we face
 
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KG654

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I would say don't go into details of your problems too early in relationship. It scares them away before they know you're worth it. Keep hoping and enjoying your time w him and it might even pull you out of that funk. When I can't get out of that pit, I have found that taking magnesium (magnesium malate is best) and ginseng helped me a lot w both, they calm the mind body and spirit and get rid of sticky negative thoughts the loop around in the mind. Also, getting outside, laying on the grass to get grounded and breathe in fresh air, looking at stars, these things help a lot too. Our environment help or hurt our mental health and physical health. Speak aloud positive truths to counteract the negative thoughts and things said to us. Also, Volunteering helps us get our of our own misery to help others, which helps us. Call those negatives a lie and correct them to yourself. Protect yourself from those who put that added stress on you. Hope this helps you too. It has helped many.
 
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