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rubyrose

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I'm not sure where this belongs and I apologize if it is in the wrong place. I'm sorry if I have ever somehow offended anyone here. I don't intend to hurt anyone. I don't want there to be underlying tension or resentment. I always feel like I'm hated by people after a while, for one reason or another. Honestly I'm surprised I haven't lost practically every friend I've made here yet. I overthink virtually everything all the time and when I do/say things without thinking super hard about them beforehand, I feel like I always somehow get it wrong. Actually I often feel like I get it wrong no matter how much thought I put into it. I don't want to be hated but if I am, I understand. Again, I'm sorry.
 
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Your not hated at all sis :hug1: in fact it's the opposite, your loved and cared for :) you've not done anything wrong at all ^__^ Do you think it's your mental health making you think/feel this way?
I promise your a loved on this forum :hug5:
 
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I think I've become very hard on myself because I'm used to people being hard on me. It has a lot to do with certain relatives and people who called themselves my friends but never really had my back or even really tried. I've learned to expect to be criticized after I receive a compliment, to be hit after I receive a hug. I think I try to beat people to the punch to protect my fragile feelings...I'll tell you I'm not good enough before you even have the chance to tell me. There are some trust issues.
 
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I have never noticed that you are an offensive person?? in fact nothing could be further from the truth imo!!

We all occasionally rub someone up the wrong way on here, but we all spend so long in each other's company it's bound to happen at some point. If this is because you have, I really wouldn't worry too much about it :hug: In my experience most people forgive and forget pretty quick - I know I do:shrug:

I've learned to expect to be criticized after I receive a compliment, to be hit after I receive a hug.
I had a similar unstable background (although, in their defence, those people are very different now) It taught me to be defensive and over compensate, like it's taught you to put yourself down...and I am sure we both always think the worst will happen?? It's hard to break those mindsets isn't it?

Personally I think you're really lovely and caring and funny and cool company... and as I notice you aren't on my friends list I think I will send you a request :)
 
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I think I've become very hard on myself because I'm used to people being hard on me. It has a lot to do with certain relatives and people who called themselves my friends but never really had my back or even really tried. I've learned to expect to be criticized after I receive a compliment, to be hit after I receive a hug. I think I try to beat people to the punch to protect my fragile feelings...I'll tell you I'm not good enough before you even have the chance to tell me. There are some trust issues.
Hi rubyrose,
I can relate with what you're saying here.
In my honest opinion, I feel nothing but purity from you, a magnitude of something i can't describe.
 
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Rubyrose, you are very very genuine and I appreciate all of the support you've given me in the past. You're a nice person. <3
 
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Imo you are a really beautiful person. I dont know how anyone could hate you. So sorry you feel this way about yourself. I can understand the telling yourself you are not good enough before someone else can because i do that too. But please try and see what everyone on this thread says about you because it is all true :loveshower:
 

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I think I've become very hard on myself because I'm used to people being hard on me. It has a lot to do with certain relatives and people who called themselves my friends but never really had my back or even really tried. I've learned to expect to be criticized after I receive a compliment, to be hit after I receive a hug. I think I try to beat people to the punch to protect my fragile feelings...I'll tell you I'm not good enough before you even have the chance to tell me. There are some trust issues.
I can relate to that so much. I am horrible at taking both good and bad feedback. With good feedback I always expect bad afterwards. It's a horrible viscous circle :(.

You have nothing to be sorry about at all. I have never seen you do anything that you say you have, nothing at all.

You are a amazing, caring person and most importantly of all my RedRose.

xxxxx
 
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Rose its not an easy roundabout to be on is it :hug:

Ruminating the worst of what people could think about us, one day we will all find a way off the negative thought roundabout and find piece and tranquility.

:hug: your lovely xx
 
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Thank you all very much. Sorry to hear some of you have dealt with similar thoughts/experiences though.
 
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