It is hard to cope with a family member who often seems self-destructive, even liking a punkish song with lyrics about destroying yourself, which he will play repeatedly. Now he has ended up on a medical ward after staying on the street for a day and overnight and more. Very sad. I long for a resolution to his lack of taking good care of himself. But his social worker, when I spoke to her on the phone, thinks it is important for me to get therapy, though she has never met me in person. Again, I think a health professional is making an assumption prematurely. She should be focusing on my son, her patient, and his needs more than on his mother, who is currently his only source of basic support: a place to live and finances. Why start telling me what to do with myself when my son self-abuses and ends up in the hospital? Please, someone teach health care professionals to stick to what are the facts and what they know directly, and not try to go on hearsay and making a diagnosis about a carer before even meeting the carer!