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Sometimes I feel distraught

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savavdpeas

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Sometimes when I turn opportunities down, I end up feeling distraught inside. My Mother suggested that I go help my Dad and brother with the work they are doing on my brother's house. But I turned it down. My excuse was that I need to wait until the medication accumulates in my system more. Wow.
 
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savavdpeas

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Is it a legitimate excuse for not helping my Dad and brother?
 
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Medication changes can be really overwhelming and can take a long time to adjust to. And psych meds can make you feel very lethargic, woozy and weaker than normal. If you didn't feel up to helping, i think that is fine and you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. Physical and mental work can both be very taxing on medication and with mental problems.

Maybe the feeling of being distraught about it is because you are wondering if you would feel better with the distraction of working with your family, maybe next time the opportunity arises ask yourself if you think it is worth giving it a go despite the medication. It might work out, it might not, i don't think there is necessarily a right answer. But for now i think you should try and relax, it is good you are thinking about your health and not taking every opportunity even if it is not the right time for you :)
 
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savavdpeas

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Ok, thanks.
 
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Is it a legitimate excuse for not helping my Dad and brother?
Hi savavdpeas.

I guess only you know if its a valid reason/excuse. I do know that I sometimes feel I need to make "excuses" for doing or not doing things because I don't want the person who has asked to feel like I'm rejecting their help or gesture when actually I should be able to simply say no I don't feel up to it or no I don't want to do it because it's ok to do that.

Could the distraught part be down to struggling with indecisiveness ?
 
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savavdpeas

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I think I'm wasting time with all my whining.
 
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savavdpeas

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I think I'm wasting time with all my whining.
But then again, maybe I'm not "whining". Maybe I'm just talking about my exeriences, as the name of this sub forum implies.
 
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I ran a small errand before, and I was paranoid as hell. I just did not want it to escalate into something worse. Either that, or I'm just sick and tired of feeling that way whenever I leave the house.
 
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savavdpeas, i think you made a good decision. It takes time to recover from paranoid feelings, it is good to give yourself rest time after having a stressful experience. I get it, i am hard on myself too when i don't get things done like i would have before i got schizophrenia but i think it is something that you have to work around and it does mean having to do less stressful things and taking it slow sometimes
 
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