• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

something weird x

Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

Well-known member
Forum Guide
Joined
Apr 9, 2011
Messages
33,799
Location
Magical fairy wonderland xxxx
for so long i have seen myself as vile ,disgusting ,ugly a monster
and everyone keeps telling me no you are not you are fine you are normal you are human
well i let my aunt take a photo of me to send to my dad and i sent one to my sister and a friend and they said i looked really pretty

why do i think i am a unhuman disgusting ugly monster? i even let myself believe for a short while earlier maybe it is true
i look like everyone else??


but then that changes things ,if i AM human what do i do with that?
so long i have believed i am separate from everyone else x
 
Mayflower7

Mayflower7

Well-known member
Moderator
Joined
Jan 4, 2013
Messages
10,053
Location
England
Hi fairy Lu,
I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself, it is sad. I hope in time you will come to love yourself.
Take care
 
R

Rusalochka

Guest
Body dysmorphia is really hard to deal with. I understand what you mean. When I look in the mirror, I see how ugly I look. But my parents tell me I'm pretty. Sometimes I believe they're only saying that to be nice.

You're a beautiful person. I've never seen a picture of you, but I don't need to see how you look because I know you're beautiful. You're kind and you have a heart of gold. :hug1:
 
Not_Crazy_Yet

Not_Crazy_Yet

Well-known member
Joined
Jun 19, 2015
Messages
3,489
Location
USA
I blame the media. They brain wash young girls from the age of 5+ into thinking they aren't beautiful unless they fit into their cookie cutter mold of nearly unachievable "beauty" she should be 5'4" 36D 24 36 long blonde hair blue eyes designer clothes etc etc etc. It's bull shit. Speaking as a man I don't follow their false standard. But not too worry girls just buy our makeup and diet pills fancy clothes expensive hand bags and so on and you'll be pretty. . . It's criminal. Programming children from an early age to be consumers or else they'll be "ugly". Melanie Martinez has a song called Mrs. Potato Head that talks about this very thing. The official video even has her dressed as though she's a child watching these commercials and feels she needs to stuff her bra and take pills and put on a wig. I wish the media didn't make women grow up to feel this way.
 
S

sadsadsad

Well-known member
Joined
Jul 23, 2018
Messages
110
I blame the media. They brain wash young girls from the age of 5+ into thinking they aren't beautiful unless they fit into their cookie cutter mold of nearly unachievable "beauty"
What they brain wash girls into thinking is that beauty matters in the first place.
 
Not_Crazy_Yet

Not_Crazy_Yet

Well-known member
Joined
Jun 19, 2015
Messages
3,489
Location
USA
True. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think all women are beautiful. That wasn't what I meant. I meant that this idealogy supported only one cultural perception of beauty. For instance and I forget the tribe but in parts of Africa the larger the rings in a woman's lip the more beautiful they are. I don't find it attractive but at the same time I find some of the women doing this practice to be very beautiful indeed. If these ideals weren't present and women and girls were allowed to find their own identity and sense of beauty what a wonderful and acentric place this world could be.
 
letmein

letmein

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 10, 2016
Messages
902
hey I can relate to what you say Fairy.... I have myself down as the ugliest person ever, both inside and out. I suffer with self hate issue and think I'm the worst of the worst you can be. I'm worse than say Ian Huntley.

but i know this is down to my illness, dosn't make it any easier to live with though.
 
Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

Well-known member
Forum Guide
Joined
Apr 9, 2011
Messages
33,799
Location
Magical fairy wonderland xxxx
hey I can relate to what you say Fairy.... I have myself down as the ugliest person ever, both inside and out. I suffer with self hate issue and think I'm the worst of the worst you can be. I'm worse than say Ian Huntley.

but i know this is down to my illness, dosn't make it any easier to live with though.
you are beautiful on the inside-this i know from talking to you for over the past 5 years
what you look like i don't know ,but that is just your outer shell-it is irrelevant to me what you or others look like x
 
valleygirl

valleygirl

Well-known member
Joined
Apr 5, 2015
Messages
1,927
Location
Valley of dry bones
Fairy Lu, have you ever been diagnosed with body dysmorphia? I know someone else brought it up too. Maybe it's something to look into. Also, I think sometimes our feelings about ourselves with our mental health struggles can extend to feeling bad about the way we look. I don't know what you look like, but I do know that you are kind and compassionate, and have been through a lot of hard things over the years. I am sending you loads and loads of virtual hugs your way.

:hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5::hug5:
 
Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

Well-known member
Forum Guide
Joined
Apr 9, 2011
Messages
33,799
Location
Magical fairy wonderland xxxx
no i have never been diagnosed with body dysmorphia but i do think it is possible i may have it
thank you so much
Lu x
 
valleygirl

valleygirl

Well-known member
Joined
Apr 5, 2015
Messages
1,927
Location
Valley of dry bones
I think I might have it too, although not diagnosed. I vacillate between avoiding looking at myself in the mirror at all (except to put on a bit of makeup and do my hair in the morning) and looking at myself from different angles and in every mirror I see. My new workplace sadly has one wall that is made up of floor to ceiling mirrors, and I was horrified to see that I look bigger in those mirrors than in my bathroom mirror at home. ARRRRRRRRRRRGH! Now I just try not to look at myself in the mirror at work at all. It's not good for my mental health.
no i have never been diagnosed with body dysmorphia but i do think it is possible i may have it
thank you so much
Lu x
 
Top