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Something I can focus on, to believe things will get better

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I need some kind of meditation or something to help me believe things will get better.

Every day I wake up in a slump feeling things have no reason to get better.

I feel I'm at rock bottom.
Emotionally I'm sick... very much so, the anti depressant pills are just blocking out the feelings.
The therapy must be sort of working but ofc therapy is slow to work isn't it. It doesn't happen over night.

I need something to practice to help me believe things could get better. Problem is I can't see the good even though there is good. I can't see the possibility even though there is possibility. What can I practice to help me?
 
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Have you tried mindfulness . But the best for me when I’m feeling agitated is guided relaxation. There’s quite a few on you tube, but you have to be in a quiet room while listening to it.
 
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Have you tried mindfulness . But the best for me when I’m feeling agitated is guided relaxation. There’s quite a few on you tube, but you have to be in a quiet room while listening to it.
yeah i've tried it and it doesn't change the lifelong feelings and experiences.
most of those recordings and mindful teachers i can't take them seriously. its like theyre living in a weird peaceful hippie land that i can't take seriously.


part of the problem is i still live with the trauma that scarred me.


i don't know though. i am willing to try something which is actually effective and doesn't sound too hippy ish
 
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sorry daffy i am just not being very constructive

and you are being really helpful

sorry you are giving good suggestions i'm just not very receptive
 
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Find five things in your immediate room that you like or are glad you own

Go outside. Find five things that are pleasant to look at. Could be a flower, the sun, kids playing, a pastry.

Walk around the block. Each corner find five more things.

By the time you get home it should have lessened the anxiety.
 
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Has your situation changed in the last six months? (Drawing on what you told me in March)

If not -I think all your efforts are like bailing water out of a bottomless boat.

I believe you need to get out of there, Dewey. It sounded depressing and toxic
with your mum - and eventually we get used to that and it feels comfortable.

Sometimes there isn't anything in our day to day lives to make us happy - you've just got to step out of your current existence into something fresh and healthy. x
 
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Has your situation changed in the last six months? (Drawing on what you told me in March)

If not -I think all your efforts are like bailing water out of a bottomless boat.

I believe you need to get out of there, Dewey. It sounded depressing and toxic
with your mum - and eventually we get used to that and it feels comfortable.

Sometimes there isn't anything in our day to day lives to make us happy - you've just got to step out of your current existence into something fresh and healthy. x
thanks.
i did manage to move out of it for a while, but then i pulled myself back in. you're right, it did start to feel comfortable.
i know you're right in what you say. i really do need to step out of my current existence.
thank you x
 
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Has your situation changed in the last six months? (Drawing on what you told me in March)

If not -I think all your efforts are like bailing water out of a bottomless boat.

I believe you need to get out of there, Dewey. It sounded depressing and toxic
with your mum - and eventually we get used to that and it feels comfortable.

Sometimes there isn't anything in our day to day lives to make us happy - you've just got to step out of your current existence into something fresh and healthy. x
thanks.
i did manage to move out of it for a while, but then i pulled myself back in. you're right, it did start to feel comfortable.
i know you're right in what you say. i really do need to step out of my current existence.
thank you x
 
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thanks.
i did manage to move out of it for a while, but then i pulled myself back in. you're right, it did start to feel comfortable.
i know you're right in what you say. i really do need to step out of my current existence.
thank you x
I know from my own experience that sometimes we feel miserable just because our lives ARE miserable. Being under the parental roof can have the same effect as a slow gas leak - you feel lethargic...exhausted...terrible pains in your head...and no idea you're slowly being poisoned.

Grab a roll of Christmas wrapping paper - tear off a chunk and on the reverse side, start drawing a flow chart for how to get where you want to be. Get the coloured pens out - capture
all your thoughts about what would make you happy - then start mapping a route towards them.
Open a savings account solely for these goals - focus on it every day in the morning and evening.

You are such an intelligent and talented person - depression can turn into a warm, cosy armchair without us realising.This time next year - where will you be? x
 
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just wanna say thank you for everyone's brilliant advice
and sorry for being so negative, i'm truly sorry.
 
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thanks.
i did manage to move out of it for a while, but then i pulled myself back in. you're right, it did start to feel comfortable.
i know you're right in what you say. i really do need to step out of my current existence.
thank you x
Hate that turn of phrase. Let me know you're ok please.

Aaaand you posted at the same time. Smiling now.

Hugs you.
 
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just wanna say thank you for everyone's brilliant advice
and sorry for being so negative, i'm truly sorry.
This is not the place to feel sorry about feeling sorry. We all care. Be as toxic or negative or open as you feel. Sometimes venting helps quite a bit.
 
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You all restore my hope in humanity - and that's saying something
 
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