- May 20, 2016
Okay so, I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. She suffers from a whole variety of illnesses and has also had bad life experiences, traumatic ones in fact. We have had arguement over arguement because I struggle to understand her illness, also because I take things personally sometimes. Anyway, I tried speaking to her today about how I know her emotions control a lot how she perceives things (she ALWAYS thinks I'm being rude) however this ended badly. There are a lot of things I do, without even knowing, that remind her of people, experiences etc and it makes her feel awful. I don't do it intentionally. I want her to know I care and see it but she can't. She thinks I don't listen and I'm not there. I feel so hurt by how she acts with me and speaks to me sometimes. I try and take it because it can't always be controlled, but it's becoming so hard. I need help on what to do. She isn't speaking to me, feels so low, is blaming me. It's not my fault what has happened in her life, I don't do these things intentionally. I'm desperate.