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Social services experience/advice?

Luci

Luci

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My children were taken out of my care 9 weeks ago. 12 year old with autism and 4 month old baby. Both boys. I told my perinatal CPN I felt like 'topping myself' she reported this to social, adding she knows it's a way for me to express how bad I feel and I would never hurt the children. There have never been any red flags with regard to my parenting of either child raised by any professional. I wasnt worried. She asked me to agree to a safety plan for the weekend (it was friday). I agreed for my oldest son to go to his grandparents. She told me they were going to give the baby to his dad. I crumbled. He hadn't helped me or showed any care toward him since he was born, refusing to look after him so I could rest etc. I was genuinely worried that he would accidentally hurt him or kill him. The social worker determined I was not able to cooperate with the safety plan and put in for 74 hour police protection. I assumed I would be approached with a section 20 on Monday. The applied for an emergency interim care order. It was granted. I was shocked!
This was 9 weeks ago. In this time I have met the social worker once, this week. He released a report about the fathers ability to look after the baby and was in support of him. He hadn't even met me.... didn't know my 'side'. When I met him he was evasive when I asked him questions and suggested I was becoming angry at one point. When I saw my councillor today I told him and he said I do seem aggressive when I explain the situation (I am focussing on my relationship with the babys dad and why he let me down, lied and betrayed me) but also that it's such a sad an unfair situation. I know it is! The contact workers know and like me and can see what an amazing mum I am. The court appointed psychiatrist has said I am not a risk to anyone, especially not my children, that the children being removed from my care is a huge trauma and has had an impact on my mental health. I asked the social worker what his position will be when this report is released as the only 'risk' is my mental health. He said if new evidence is submitted court will have to review it.
I know I'm going to get my boys back, but the social worker is just starting his assessment and is clearly biased. Will the report from the psychiatrist be enought to have them returned home whilst he assessment is completed? I have told the truth all the way through so should I just stop panicking and be confident he will see the truth as he investigates?
Any experiences or advice? Anyone been in a similar position?
 
Edinscotbrit

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I would advise contacting your Dr, so he can back up your claims that you were clearly distressed at the time and can vouch for your competency as a parent.

If you feel that social worker is being biased, you must contact the duty social worker and explain the situation.

Also, the court appointed psychiatrist should have some input into this and, I would hope, has submitted some sort of report about you, in support of your parental skills.

Social services aren`t the best! Really aren`t! I have a low opinion of them . Get your counselor on board. And, annoying and time consuming as it is, keep on at them.
 
Luci

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My solicitor has already requested and recieved my medical records and the psychiatrists full report is due next week. She doesn't believe I am a risk to anyone never mind my children. This is going to be my biggest piece of evidence with regard to getting them back home while the assessment is underway.

I have made formal complaints regarding the social workers lack of communication and the way he speaks to/addresses me, and the bias report he has released. He is not keen to elaborate or comment on this so far, I've approached him about it on the 2 occasions I have met him to date and he has wormed out of explaining himself. I have spoke to his manager regarding this and my solicitor has raised it with their legal team. And we have been completely ignored. I literally have no way forward..... I'm constantly frustrated and anxious, and am not sleeping :(
 
Lunar Lady

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Luci,

Just a quick note to give you a hug sweetie. I have been following your posts but I just don't know a darn thing about social services, so I couldn't offer anything useful.

However - if you need a friend or just someone to vent to, I'm here for you.

You're having a rough time and you're doing great Luci - hang in there :hug:
 
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TheRealScatty

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Some people go though a bad mental health patch after giving birth. It does resolve....
I'd be getting some calming down type meds...not to appear aggessive.

It's horrible what has Happened but focus on getting well and getting more access to the children, if possible even supervised its "to prove yourself capable" .

I am not surprised, you feel very angry and tramatised by having your kids taken.

It's all about doing whatever is neccesary "to prove you are a competent parent".

Good to try to get some contact with the Children but only if you "feel up to it' .....I'd play it safe.... there!

Focus on getting better in yourself too, no negativity, self beating up blame. Sadly Shit happens, I know a woman who had a similar experience!
 
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