social phobia combined with extreme shyness

[irwin]

Maybe a chatroom would be good for those of us who don't talk much to anyone in person but feel the need to. It might just be a matter of the admins enabling it in the MHF software. It would need to be organized, though. Otherwise, people would lose interest, and somebody has to keep the conversation going.

 

[zula77]

Hi Jordan, you are definitely not alone! I hope you're feeling more positive. I think it's important to remember that other people aren't as scary as we think they are...and taking tiny steps is the way to go. totally agree with nature helping too. Sometimes I will collect leaves/things I find out in nature and stick them in a journal to remind me that whilst I was anxious, calmness and good things always surround us. Nature is powerful!

 

[jordan84]

I think one of my most favourite players at the moment is Judd Trump.. it's great when there's a nail biting contest, also large breaks fascinate me, to keep that much control over the cue ball etc. How are you finding the Forum? Personally I find it a great place to communicate, there seems to be a lot less judgemental people on here who are always willing to support and help others'.

Hi again my last account got deleted by accident but the team have created a new account for me I'm finding the forum good so far as people on here are friendly and supportive. Cool how you really enjoy the large breaks in snooker, I like watching Ronni O'Sullivan do large breaks as he makes it look so easy, I bet a lot of people don't realise how difficult it is to keep control of the cue ball in order to create a large break or even better a 147

 

[jordan84]

hi jordan, Welcome to the forums.....I have bad socila anxiety too .....i have no friends nor a girlfriend, i used to be very lonely but then i found this forum.....its a nice place to post/talk.....people here are humble nice caring understanding people who have been through it.....keep up posting...

Thank you I'm sorry you have this horrible condition too but I'm glad how posting on here helps you to feel less lonely

 

[jordan84]

Hi Jordan, you are definitely not alone! I hope you're feeling more positive. I think it's important to remember that other people aren't as scary as we think they are...and taking tiny steps is the way to go. totally agree with nature helping too. Sometimes I will collect leaves/things I find out in nature and stick them in a journal to remind me that whilst I was anxious, calmness and good things always surround us. Nature is powerful!

That's nice to here how you find nature calming what a great idea to collect leaves and things and keep them to look at later as they help you to feel calm nature is very powerful indeed and none judgemental too I like watching bugs like lady bugs or listening the birds and the various calls they make, it's calming and relaxing too

 

[OCDguy]

Hi again my last account got deleted by accident but the team have created a new account for me I'm finding the forum good so far as people on here are friendly and supportive. Cool how you really enjoy the large breaks in snooker, I like watching Ronni O'Sullivan do large breaks as he makes it look so easy, I bet a lot of people don't realise how difficult it is to keep control of the cue ball in order to create a large break or even better a 147

Good to see you back and posting Ronnie is such a natural, he makes break building etc. look so easy I noticed how you appreciate the finer things in life... It might not be such a bad thing if we all took a step back now and then in our busy lives, just to connect and absorb the World around us and show appreciation for everything we take for granted. It may help us realise just how lucky we are etc.

 

[jordan84]

Good to see you back and posting Ronnie is such a natural, he makes break building etc. look so easy I noticed how you appreciate the finer things in life... It might not be such a bad thing if we all took a step back now and then in our busy lives, just to connect and absorb the World around us and show appreciation for everything we take for granted. It may help us realise just how lucky we are etc.

That's very true there is a line in a song i like that goes, slow down for a minute and you might see that your in it I think it is too easy to lose touch with the natural world around us, we need to appreciate the present moment more

 

[Mav2126]

hi, I was just wondering if I'm the only person like this. I really struggle to talk to people and am extremely shy and apart from the few closest people in my life I haven't spoken or mixed with anybody for around 13 years, apart from saying thanks in a shop or something but apart from that I can't remember the last time I had any sort of conversation with somebody, not even online, posting on here is the first time I have attempted to chat to anybody for as long as I can remember. I think my social phobia has just got the best of me and because it's been so long now I have forgotten how to talk to people and it seems an impossible thing, I was never any good at it in the first place. When I have had to talk to people in my life I have bad physical symptoms of anxiety and bad negative thoughts about myself and I'm very quiet and I end up feeling sad. It's a curse because I desperately would like to talk to people but at the same time im desperately scared of doing so and just left feeling lonely I feel like I'm the only person in the world like this.

I completely understand where you are coming from. You are not alone.

 

[Twinkle Toes]

I struggle with making friends in face to face situations. I had selective mutism and autism as a child and had a complete phobia of speaking outside the home at all.

My parents got a dog and eventually I could talk to the dog outside too and other people who stopped to say hi and ask what is dogs name and age and comment about the weather usually!!! I've always had a dog ever since. They have been my best therapy!

I'm in my 50's now and haven't been out for over a year due to covid situation other than walking my dog when no-one else was about. But we like to slip out early when the clocks have gone back and its lighter earlier again and get to our favourite places for the sun coming up. Got some stunning photo's of yellow and orange skies over the fields. I like to take photo's of wildlife and then I might do it as a watercolour or sketch if I can find the motivation to get started!