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sallyG

sallyG

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How many of us live our social life via our computers,,.,I for one do,though i have three close friends in the real world but i see them rarely..I feel safer living my social life via my pc..its not so daunting.
 
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Apotheosis

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I live a lot of my life 'plugged in' - it is comforting, safe, & I enjoy it. It is also highly addictive; & on balance; I do question how healthy it all is.
 
bluenomore

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It's the only way to live.
 
sallyG

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yes i also wonder how healthy it is..i feel it makes me more isolated in one way..and i have forgotten the art of conversation when i do meet people.
 
bluenomore

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I prefer it this way
 
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devonm131

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I prefer living at the computer, but it doesn't hurt to see people every now and then when I have the oppurtunity :)
 
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GrizzlyBear

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Computer World is a poor substitute for what I want but I'll take friends and conversation where I can get them! :clap:
 
trombone_babe

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Me too, I'm on the computer most of the day and have all but stopped going out of the house without my husband unless I'm going to work. I have a good friend that I can talk to online about all sorts of things but we don't talk in the same way when we meet in person. I find it easier to tell him stuff by writing it, he's the same.
 
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quality factor

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IMO it's a matter of choice and what you feel most comfortable with under pressure. I too spend quite a lot of my time on the computer, I know if I'm highly stressed getting involved with computer is soothing for me. I enjoy social interaction,but these days it's very rare that I go out socially. I know I can have a good conversation with my support worker very often away from the topic of mental health.
Conversly I don't think it's very healthy to isolate yourself on the computer and lose the art of good conversation, but of course you can still have both.

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Jo1760

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I completely understand what you mean about it possibly not being a healthy option... I think maybe in normal everyday it would not be considered the best way to communicate, at least for those of us who on occasions find the computer or texting an easier method on a positive note it allows interaction which may not otherwise have taken place.

i am fortunate in the respect that I do have a group of friends, however the worse I have been feeling lately the less I have seen them or wanted to interact at a face to face level. Talking on the computer is for me an easier option. I can talk and am not judged by appearance or find myself getting into the situation that I am anxious, stuttery and worrying about making myself sound silly.

I have also found myself texting more of late also, instead of calling friends. I guess for the same reasons stated above.
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trombone_babe

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Yes I'm like that too. The other problem I have is that I cry extremely easily at the moment so talking online is a better option. I have always shied away from using the phone even when not depressed, and even more so now.
 
invise

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It's so nice to hear someone say that about the phone!!! I hate hate hate hate hate them. But everyone around me see's them as of the upmost importance. If I dont answer my phone they take it in the same way as me not answering a question in physical conversation. It drives me nuts. I hate using the phone. Sometimes I just want to be left alone. I guess in that sense computers are brilliant, you talk exactly when you want to.
Sorry, little rant I had to have :)
 
Sugar Coated Owl

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I wouldn't say I had a social life. The majority of the time I go to work, come home and that is where I stay. Sometimes on a Saturday, after work, I venture into town and do a bit of shopping but that's about it. I have no friends anyway. When I'm at home I'm usually on my laptop or watching TV. It's a pretty dull existence but I don't feel able to socialise, I just feel awkward and uncomfortable around people and never know quite what to say. So yeah, that's me.
 
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Borderline

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Yeah, that's me, too, razorbladekisses. Haven't had a friend since my early teens. I drifted away from socializing pretty much altogether.
 
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Ainsworth

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i spend alot of time on the internet. if i didnt i would be sitting doing nothing. i go to work on certain days, maybe go out with friends every couple of weeks, so do see myself as kind of social.

i hate the phone also and wont answer unless i have to and they are never allowed to leave a message, as i wont get back to them, so no point.

im happy with that, you can log off the internet, so in charge. i dont like people invading my space unless its planned, sounds selfish but.....?
 
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