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Social apathy?

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Q_sert

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I wouldn't say that I have social anxiety, though at times I act in a way that mirrors it. From what I gather, people with social anxiety are afraid to talk to people, nervous about what might be said about them, etc. But for me it's more that I just genuinely don't care about most of the people I interact with on a daily basis, so I see no point in having social connections with them.

Occasionally I'll get in a mood where I just want to see how far I can push people, and what I can say to them to get an interesting reaction, but aside from that I have no interest in meeting people unless I need a specific thing from them. Any way you could see that I could turn this 'social apathy' around into a successful social life?
 
Jaminacaranda

Jaminacaranda

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I feel a bit like you. I can be very sociable with other people if I try but I just don't particularly want to.
How would you define 'a successful social life'? I mean you could join clubs related to a hobby or particular interest perhaps - you don't have to try and make 'friends' beyond meeting people at the club - you don't have to join in any social activities outside the club. Also, if you join a club (like a running club perhaps or an astronomical group - just as examples!) you would be able to focus on the activity itself more than the people there. Just a thought :)
 
FriendsAreFriends

FriendsAreFriends

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You seem like a very healthy and a person mastering your life in a high degree. Manipulating others is an ability that is important to survive in crisis - so we must just know not to directly exploit people.

A healthy social life need not involve a lot of friends, but a few friends with simular interests and life-view makes a good life to me. Taking time to be alone and at the same time building alliances is good. There is a lot of interresting and good people out there - so there is always the possibility of finding good friends that respect you and could build mutual support. Choose your friends with care, they will influence your life.

Have a great day!

Kenneth.
 
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