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Social anxiety ruining my life

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spacingspaces

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I'm sure people post about this a lot but social anxiety has ruined my teenage years and now is ruining my adult life as well. I can't function like a normal person and it kills me. Something as simple as having a conversation with a stranger is nearly impossible for me at times. I can barely even go into clothes shops to look for clothes to buy without feeling extreme anxiety. I don't know where to turn to? I went to psychologists as a teenager and they didn't help. They ended up prescribing my prozac after their "methods" didn't work. I don't even know if i'd even call what they done a method. They basically just half heartedly tried to get me to do things that made me uncomfortable hoping that i'd magically feel better. Prozac helped a bit but it mostly just lifted my mood a bit and didn't do much for the anxiety. I was on that for like 6 years and came off it like a year ago. I'm nearly 22 now and i am stuck. I find myself wishing i was dead a lot recently and sort of fantasize about it. I didn't have the best childhood in parts and i wonder if that may of contributed to my anxiety but i also think it's genetic since a lot of my family suffer from anxiety.
 
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Fairy Lucretia

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hi welcome
i suffer from social anxiety too ,depending on the person i struggle to hold a conversation too
in RL i don't do people at all
mine started when i was 11 im 39 now ,i really hope yours doesn't go on for so long i truly do
you said you some treatment but im wondering if therapy could help you?
please keep posting ,i hope you will like it here
love Lu x
 
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spacingspaces

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Thanks for the reply. I'm sorry you had to go through it for so long... are you going anything to get better at the moment? Also is therapy different then seeing a psychologist?
 
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jimindigo

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Don't know if it will help,but it was great help to me when I found out I had
TRANSFERRED my anxiety from when I was a child with my parents,onto the world at
large---damn sure I wasn't going to do it a SECOND TIME!
COURAGE,
jimindigo
 
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Stormcloud

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I am the same, people think that I am boring because I don't like mixing with people. I go red when I am talking to people too so I avoid being around people.
 
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sunshineandbutterflies

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Sorry to hear of the struggle that you are facing with your anxiety.:/ Have you considered speaking with a physician or a licensed counselor? you may have a bit of a different experience with a counselor if you are open to the idea. Were you offered any coping strategies in your teenage years? Grounding exercises, exercise, counting, deep breathing are all things that have been helpful to me. I can send you an article if you like. There are also different foods such as caffeine that may be limited to help. (Physician or dietitian may be able to help you here.) I would be glad to send you a link to an article or two if you like.
 
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Twitchy

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Yes, I believe therapy is different than seeing a psychologist. I’m sorry to report that I don’t feel like it did too much for me, but I’m strongly considering going back. It seems to be one of the only ways to try and get better. Talk to any trusted friends or family if possible, be candid, open, and honest and I promise they will do what they can to help you.
 
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notunderstanding

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Yes, I believe therapy is different than seeing a psychologist. I’m sorry to report that I don’t feel like it did too much for me, but I’m strongly considering going back. It seems to be one of the only ways to try and get better. Talk to any trusted friends or family if possible, be candid, open, and honest and I promise they will do what they can to help you.
Clinical Psychologists can do therapy with patients.
 
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alyssa88

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social anxiety ruins my life

I have social anxiety my whole life. I cant hold conversations with friends incase there is a silence and they think I am boring. I cant go to a shop in case something embarrassing happens. I am the only person in work who doesn't talk at lunch and people think im "quiet" which im not!! I'd love to shout ive social anxiety!!!! I have never met anyone with this before. everyone i meet seems to be confident and have endless supply of conversation. It ruins my life. I never make phone calls or chat to neighbours.
 
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I know it is hard to live life an extreme social anxiety situations however meditation may helps you, it makes you relaxed by body and mind. Try it if you can it really helps.
 
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