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Social Anxiety - Overcoming Phobias Concept

KyussEatsTheSun

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Hello! I had I thought this evening regarding phobias and it goes like this:

They say in order to conquer/lessen a fear then you should expose yourself to it/the situation. However, this concept appears to be quite contrary to my social anxiety. I can remember having SA as a child and the more I spent time with people the worse the symptoms became. I am becoming more aware of my own workings of SA and force myself to "just get out there." This is because I don't want my social ability to atrophy. However, as I reflect on my social anxiety I realize it has either stayed the same or gotten worse. The only thing that ever helped was valium. Anyone else experienced what I have?
 
bpd2020

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I have social anxiety. What I have noticed is some people with it are able to enjoy socialising once they try. They may enjoy one to one socialising or a familiar group. For me I do not enjoy socialising at all. I find it stressful and draining. I have excepted I am an introvert and not happy in company. I do realise this is very unusual though.
 
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I'm introverted too. Saw something recently saying most people are actually ambiverts. Usually when I see this topic it's about introvert/extrovert only. Like it's one or the other, and that's it for everybody.. And I'm not sure but I believe introversion is pretty common as a dominant trait, maybe around 1/3 of us?
 
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They say in order to conquer/lessen a fear then you should expose yourself to it/the situation. However, this concept appears to be quite contrary to my social anxiety. I can remember having SA as a child and the more I spent time with people the worse the symptoms became. I am becoming more aware of my own workings of SA and force myself to "just get out there." This is because I don't want my social ability to atrophy. However, as I reflect on my social anxiety I realize it has either stayed the same or gotten worse. The only thing that ever helped was valium. Anyone else experienced what I have?
Well, "expose to the situation" is just one part of the "exposure treatment", this kind of "exposure treatment" have to be accompanied with therapy, and needs a guidance.

Also, exposure therapy its not the only way to treat phobias, is just 1 way, that could work for some people or not.

In psychology, every case is different and there are no same treatments for everyone.

Try to find what suits you best. And good luck, hope you overcome this problem!
 
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I did the same. I voluntary applied for a job in retail and went to partys with a lot of people from which I only knew 10% of the people that attended there.
This should have made me less anxious right? But it did not.It just made me stressed out and even after the event I was still tense and shaken up.

I believe that in order for that to actually lessen your anxiety, you should start by looking at the reason for your anxiety. If it is low self esteem you should start with that. If it is lack of social skill you should try and learn those.

Best would be therapy but you should search for a therapist that won't just tell you to expose yourself but one that actually helps you to be prepared for a certain situation and works with you on your reason for anxiety.
 
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