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Social anxiety has totally ruined my life

Sorry state

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I've previously posted on the depression forum but was recently 'diagnosed' with social anxiety. When they explained what it meant a lot of things fell into place.

I've suffered with depression since childhood and assumed that's all there was to it. But identifying social anxiety made complete sense.

Unfortunately it doesn't make any difference. It doesn't change anything but at least I have a more specific name for one of the major causes of my pointless existence.

I used to be very sociable and have lots of friends. Only now do I realise I was not sociable, I was jus off my face on drink and/or drugs. Only now do I realise they weren't friends, they were just people I knew who were temporarily amused by my antics.

I now have no friends. I don't even know anyone within about 50 miles of where I'm living.

I'm what is commonly known as 'self-employed'. The truth is I've avoided working with or for other people my whole life. The thought of it makes me feel physically sick and brings on anxiety. As a result I survive on a very low income. Now 50 and pretty much unemployable. Another victory for mental health!!

Not left the house in a week and not left my bed for almost a day. I'm hungry but can't find the motivation or energy to move.
 
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I'm so depressed that I don't have the energy to write so I will just say I hear you. I could have written this.
 
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I've previously posted on the depression forum but was recently 'diagnosed' with social anxiety. When they explained what it meant a lot of things fell into place.

I've suffered with depression since childhood and assumed that's all there was to it. But identifying social anxiety made complete sense.

Unfortunately it doesn't make any difference. It doesn't change anything but at least I have a more specific name for one of the major causes of my pointless existence.

I used to be very sociable and have lots of friends. Only now do I realise I was not sociable, I was jus off my face on drink and/or drugs. Only now do I realise they weren't friends, they were just people I knew who were temporarily amused by my antics.

I now have no friends. I don't even know anyone within about 50 miles of where I'm living.

I'm what is commonly known as 'self-employed'. The truth is I've avoided working with or for other people my whole life. The thought of it makes me feel physically sick and brings on anxiety. As a result I survive on a very low income. Now 50 and pretty much unemployable. Another victory for mental health!!

Not left the house in a week and not left my bed for almost a day. I'm hungry but can't find the motivation or energy to move.
Hey. Did they offer you any help after diagnosing you, like meds? I'm so sorry you're feeling this bad. Can relate. Do you feel like you are safe? Just worried as you sound like you are really in the thick of it. xx
 
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I'm 52 and have struggled with it all my life too.
 
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Me too. That's why at age 25 I stopped working full time. I joked that I partially retired and only worked 20 hours a week. It was true, but I wasn't "rich" like I made out, couldn't really afford it but just couldn't stand working anymore, around other people (no matter how nice they were), with expectations from and obligations to other people...

And that's why at age 38 I stopped working entirely. I can't. I do my own thing. I can never work for anyone else again.
 
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@Sorry state I've struggle with social anxiety for many years. I'm 50 too and trying to get into work after time of sick. Im 50 and lost my friends over the years due to it...struggling with loneliness and worried about my future.
 
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I'm 50. I haven't worked full time for 20 years and part time for five years.

Also, I had a wealthy partner who died and I never imagined my life would turn out like this. It wasn't a healthy relationship and I don't know what might have happened but I never imagined being this poor. I'm living in poverty.
 
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