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Does anyone drink excessively due to their social anxiety?
 
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I do, to let go a bit- I'm an extroverted with social anxiety and I'd do anything to be my true self at social gatherings.
Unfortunately alcohol doesn't solve the issue, rather therapy and strong will do.

Alcohol worsens my anxiety and depression symptoms once it wears off... a few beers are fine, but having too much is just not worth it
 
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I used to drink a lot for many years and it kinda worked for me. A good mood and lower anxiety levels made being social easier even if there were still fears even when drunk. I was a different person I guess with some beer in me, or a lot of beer. The excess of course brought problems, not much need to go into those. Bars were simply a good way to socialize for me, it had the people and the alcohol I needed to be at ease enough to relate to them. I guess there's more to the story but that's enough for now.
 
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I feel the exact Same. I need alcohol to lwt people see my true personality, the one that i have with my family and people close to me. I dont know how to socialise without it as the crippling anxiety stops me from joining conversations and people always call me stand offish or quiet, which I'm not really. I dont see any way out of this?!
 
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Also i cant afford therapy as the prives are extortionate. I have tried therapy many times with no avail
 
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She sounds like general anxiety though and not social otherwise she wouldnt be doing do we
 
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I've been doing some EFT tapping lately for weeks. I think it is starting to help a little. Helps me realize I'm safe, and emotions and thoughts themselves are not dangerous, and other people pose no real threat to me. Just need to feel safe. Social anxiety is all about feeling secure.
 
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Yes I believed I was only likeable when I was drunk. But that would lead to regrets and even lower self-esteem. Vicious circle
 
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Does anyone drink excessively due to their social anxiety?
I think the answer to that would be everyone! Alcohol is used in social settings for a reason it works to reduce inhibitions cutting out the part of the brain that thinks before it acts. So what seems a good idea when you have been drinking is probably not something you would do when not drinking. As already mentioned self esteem is key and possibly exploring why you feel you are not able to be yourself without drinking. Have you been 'put down' or bullied in the past or told you are not good enough by someone. Remarks like these can lower self esteem. One of the problems is also perhaps that when you begin taking any type of drug you start to surround yourself and immerse yourself in that world for drinkers that can be pubs and bars etc and surrounding yourself with others going through the same things you are going through can make the behaviour seem normal when it is not really a sustainable method to cope. Have you been able to find some free counseling?
 
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A video with the same title as this thread. This guy is a social anxiety coach.

 
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Ive never been bullied i was just born with anxiety. I dont go to the pub or surround myself with drinkers. I think u are misunderstanding and going into alcoholic discussion whereas my problem is social anxiety. When i dont have to interact with people then i dont drink. I can go days without wanting any alcohol but the minute i need to meet someone then i will drink or cancel. It's becoming unbearable and i hate myself and wish i would just be confident
 
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if your a real 12 stepper anyone who drinks it's a problem, on the other hand some people deny they're alcohol problem, it's all very confusing
 
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wish i would just be confident
Yes, that sounds great. I hope you find a way to get there. I think this social anxiety just prevents us from being who we want to be. You see people who are at ease socially, enjoying themselves, and wonder why you aren't like them. What is the difference between you and them? (this question is directed at myself too). Why is it easy for them but not for me?
 
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