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Dem0nw0lf37
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My significant other has long had severe depression, far worse than mine. What I've always done in a down spiral - and what I've always recommended to him - is to take a step back from whatever's causing the stress, distract myself, and come back to it later if it's important.
But he's never been able to do this as far as I can tell. He usually goes through the phases of 1) Anger, 2) Frustration, 3) Suicidal thoughts, 3) Depression/Dwelling on the incident, followed by a lack of self worth.
Getting him to calm down or try and distract him through any of these phases is basically impossible, and as far as I know, he doesn't have any sort of coping method to deal with it.
Typically once he gets into the true depression phase, he also doesn't want me interfering with him (being close, talking, touching, etc.), but I honestly can't leave him truly alone so I have to keep an ear out for him in the next room over.
Normally after a while he'll finish his sulking and play video games, which does help him destress - unfortunately only AFTER he's beat himself up over it for several hours.
But the reason he's upset at the moment is his computer is essentially broken and he can't play games.
Plus this is a rather destructive cycle to begin with, and I wish I could help him to find a coping mechanism to break him out of it before he gets to that point.
He's normally medicated, but we ran out, and even on his meds he falls into this cycle - albeit less severe usually.
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Coping mechanisms for when you can't stop dwelling on stressors?
But he's never been able to do this as far as I can tell. He usually goes through the phases of 1) Anger, 2) Frustration, 3) Suicidal thoughts, 3) Depression/Dwelling on the incident, followed by a lack of self worth.
Getting him to calm down or try and distract him through any of these phases is basically impossible, and as far as I know, he doesn't have any sort of coping method to deal with it.
Typically once he gets into the true depression phase, he also doesn't want me interfering with him (being close, talking, touching, etc.), but I honestly can't leave him truly alone so I have to keep an ear out for him in the next room over.
Normally after a while he'll finish his sulking and play video games, which does help him destress - unfortunately only AFTER he's beat himself up over it for several hours.
But the reason he's upset at the moment is his computer is essentially broken and he can't play games.
Plus this is a rather destructive cycle to begin with, and I wish I could help him to find a coping mechanism to break him out of it before he gets to that point.
He's normally medicated, but we ran out, and even on his meds he falls into this cycle - albeit less severe usually.
TL

Coping mechanisms for when you can't stop dwelling on stressors?