Small Towns - ???

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Why do people from small towns have a real hard time keeping them selves to them selves. And minding their own business. :BLAH: Such people just can't help them selves.

Why do small town folk have an inherent need to nosy in and know everyone else's business?:BLAH: And love to gossip & stir.

An inherent false need to socialise with everyone, both in order to obtain information about everyone. And for reasons unknown (biological need to socialise).

I do not have this need. Nor do I like socialising. And if I do socialise I do so selectively. Horrible people in this town just force them selves into your life and force their small communities rules on you. Were people try and force their socialising on you, their small community town rules.
Why?

Is it that difficult for certain human creatures to just leave others alone.

Were everything is a popularity contest for status among their community. You tell the locals to F* off. And such individuals seem to think it is some kind of game.

It's curious because you see innocent people when they are young but after a certain age such decency & innocence becomes lost and they turn into their parents. And the cycle starts over every generation following in the foot steps of the previous generation almost identically..........:BLAH:
 
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I was bought up surrounded by people like that,my mum's family are still like it.It annoys,frustrates me and makes me puke,they don't give two shits about you yet they want to know everything so they can spread it around and gossip and they think they have a right to tell you what to do and impose their small town rules on you.I say fuck off to high heaven...what a bunch of shits!I know when you around them they are toxic and their is no escape I feel myself taken over and getting angrier and angrier:stomp::stomp::stomp::stomp:
Luckily I am out of that environment now I would not cope.:)
 
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Yeah. If I walk through city like Oxford, Reading, Winchester, Liverpool etc. people don't even notice I exist.:scratch: I could probably wear a pink dress walk down the high street and no one would notice or care.

Walk through or stay in a small town. OMG! People either want a piece of the newbie or want to destroy you as your considered a threat, Sometimes both at the same time. :LOL:

60-90% variable of small town folk gawking at anything that is different to the way they are, gossiping at someone they have never seen before walking staying/through their territory.... :rolleyes:
 
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Yeah you find that where I live. If you're different you are singled out for abuse. And if you rely on social housing you can't just leave. That's where I am just now. I have no desire to be here but have no choice. And the people are so ignorant. They're racist, homophobic and completely anti mentally ill. The Daily Mail is well read round here and it's a Scottish Nationalist town so for anyone English thinking of moving here I would not recommend it. Completely small minded small town. I can't wait to leave if I ever do. I feel trapped here and like an alien stuck on the wrong planet waiting for its ride home. There was a film about that but this is real life which is much worse.
 
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Damn. I hope you the best and hope you get out.

My daily routine. Pick myself up, dust my self off, and keep moving forward and trying....

Applies to both us....:BLAH:

Many say that bigotry is dead and gone. Truth is however such truths are just sweeped outa sight outa mind. The card of ignorance played....
 
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Well they say it's getting worse after Brexit. But it never went away. People have always been anti English here but now foreigners get it too. Then you get those who like Eastern Europeans and blame Brexit solely on the 'racist English' (the irony is lost on them), identifying with Polish immigrants but hating English ones. And the whole Rangers and Celtic thing is ridiculous. Then they have a private war with the nearest city (which can be much more tolerant than here). And that's even before you mention their attitude to mental health, drug addiction or gay and transgender people. It's a minefield of ignorance. Bigotry will never leave those who can't think for themselves so I guess we are both screwed. I do sympathise. Small town mentalities are the worst. Also living in these places can make you misanthropic, you musn't lose sight of the fact that there are good people in the world.. just not here.
 
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It's nice to speak with someone who knows the score. And does not hide it. openly honesty spoken being a rarity in todays world....

Yeah. Don't loose sight that there are good people out there.:BLAH:
 
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Your thread reminds me of that book Crap Towns, about places said to be the worst to live in the UK:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crap_Towns

Perhaps you could become a writer, and produce a publication about your town and its folk :)

It would provide a continued opportunity to vent your spleen about your town and its folk - and if you have any commercial success at all, solve your employment difficulties too ;)
 
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Not my town. I have no home town. ;)

I have lived numerous different places over the last 2 decades;)

Winchester: Nice place, politer people, has it's share of dud's
Reading: x2 places- varied. central reading - gangster wannabies, on the hole okay. Villages around reading - villagers typically hostile to outsiders of their village, degree of ignorance.
Bedford -x2 places. Oh boy. One place so hostile I moved in in a week moved out in 3 days (Extremely hostile). Place number two - rude, nasty people, people afraid of people, people intentionally try to wear each other down, high level of youths and young people carrying weapons. Knifes, metal bars, bats etc.
Oxford - Real nice - Worst thing I put up with was snobbery. You earn less than 50k your lower class to me attitude... On the whole pretty nice...

And then there's traveling around the entire country UK....
 
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Certain people too are unrelenting on a daily basis at trying to provoke me. The young douche (Shut In) next door who never leaves the house next door. And the neighbours on the opposite side who constantly watching & peaking through the window while I'm in the kitchen doing various things. Or spying on me while I'm in the back yard..... One of the guys next door smells so bad I can actually smell him sneak up on me while he stands there peaking through the window at me. Painting the outside of my brother house. I smelt stale sweat and uncleanliness I turned around and there was this guy standing behind me peaking through his window watching me. OMG:LOL:

Extremely irritating..............
 
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Stepped into the back yard yet again to deal with the washing. One of the low lives who lives 2 doors down was brushing his back yard. Soon as he clocks me he stops then starts gawking looking for trouble...

In a nice town the guy would have continued brushing the back yard and not even bothered to notice me...

So sick of these people...

You step out into their territory and they start eye balling you. And because they get away ''with eye balling you'' this makes them hard. I'm betting very few of these horrible people have actually been in violent situations like myself. If they had they'd know that intimidation tactics are pointless. And are only used by cowards.:rolleyes:
 
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Whoop's. The majority of people that live in this neighbour hood are scum of the earth....

My brother call's the bad people his friends. And yet they mock him and take pleasure from any bad thing that happens to him or anyone else....

Disgusting despicable little town people...:rolleyes:
 
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Good grief

come to Australia

you find peaceful neighbourhoods and calm residents

no one is armed

no one is staring or yelling

theres just too many people packed into the UK imo. Overpopulation. You're all on top of each other

my hairdresser was English and she and her husband were utterly stunned

WHERE ARE ALL THE TEENAGERS???

apparently in UK they are all over the street corners

here you never see them, unless its on a football field or netball court

they don't hang around anywhere because everyone has backyards and family rooms and pools.

My hairdresser felt like wed killed all the teenagers PMSL
 
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Yeah. Certainly is the case.

Two teenagers on my travels today with bottles of whiskey in tow. ''Oh we got nothing better to do''.

I asked the two guys how old they were. They suddenly went quiet and scarpered.....
 
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Yeah. Certainly is the case.

Two teenagers on my travels today with bottles of whiskey in tow. ''Oh we got nothing better to do''.

I asked the two guys how old they were. They suddenly went quiet and scarpered.....
I would have an enormous culture shock going to the UK

coming home from Asia bad enough

Asia is peaceful and calm too - BUT ITS DIRTY

coming home to the green wide ungraffitied uncluttered fresh air of home = wonderful

and I live in Australias 5th biggest city

it retains a vibe of a small town but a FRIENDLY small town

if your car breaks down on the side of the road people stop to help.
 
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I was thinking about small towns today. It is weird when you grow up in a small town and get to know a lot of people, then bump into people you hardly know, but it would be rude not to talk to them.

I think this is partly why we talk to people we don't know very well. For me it is not to get any gossip. It is just because I cannot ignore someone I know or have met before. That would be rude.



It shocks me when I am on a bus with teenagers. They can be so cruel to people. It is so horrible to listen to. I listen to them being horrible about people they know, people who get off the bus, people who get on the bus, people at their school. They like to be horrible.

I was not like that at school. I don't like people like that.
 
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I was thinking about small towns today. It is weird when you grow up in a small town and get to know a lot of people, then bump into people you hardly know, but it would be rude not to talk to them.

I think this is partly why we talk to people we don't know very well. For me it is not to get any gossip. It is just because I cannot ignore someone I know or have met before. That would be rude.



It shocks me when I am on a bus with teenagers. They can be so cruel to people. It is so horrible to listen to. I listen to them being horrible about people they know, people who get off the bus, people who get on the bus, people at their school. They like to be horrible.

I was not like that at school. I don't like people like that.
I went to Private Girls School via bus 40 years ago, and to my eternal shame, sorry people

we were EXACTLY like that....:(

we even got thrown off the bus once our language was so FOUL. Good little catholic thugs.
 
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You may like this one.

Got off a train at colwyn bay. In less than 10 seconds I got judged by a bigot woman and an middle aged man. Apparently you need the approval of the small town folk if you walk through their territory.

In Deeside that way sitting at the train station. Number of the locals just staring and eye balling me all the while as I'm sat waiting for a train... :rolleyes:
I just ignored the various people. The train attendant was real suspicious of me too because I'm not a local...

Small towns..........:rolleyes:

Who's this outsider in our territory..:rolleyes: