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littleliz
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Hi everyone,
This is my first post and I am not sure if I have put this in the right forum - so apologies if I haven't.
I have a very good friend who suffers from Clinical Depression. I know he is prescribed lithium and also an antidepressant for this. To give a bit of background he suffered a breakdown about 8 years ago (before I knew him, we have only been friends for about 3 or 4 years) and he was in hospital for 6 months and off work for 2 years. They kept his job open and he returned to work however during the time he was off he lost his house and was made bankrupt. In the time that I have known him, he has a long term partner (who he met after his breakdown) and he is still working however he has long periods from work with sickness for his depression.
In the past 12 months he has been the worst that I have seen him and hasn't really managed more than 6 weeks back at work before going off again - he is off at the moment and has been since the beginning of May. He thinks that because his illness is covered by DDA they can't really get rid of him. Despite this, him and his partner are buying a house (which they hope to get by the end of the year.
Now for my dilemma - I used to work at the same place as him and someone who works in HR has informed me (I know they shouldn't have and I wished they hadn't) that the company is looking to "get rid of him" as they feel that despite making reasonable adjustments he still cannot manage work. I have no loyalty to the company but I have to him and don't know whether to tell him or not. Part of me wants to keep it to myself because I know it will really stress him out however the other part of me is worried that him and his partner buy this house and then cannot afford it because he loses his job. If I thought that work would sort this out before his partner signs for the house I would keep quiet but I don't think this will happen.
Sorry for such a long first post. Any advice welcome.
x
This is my first post and I am not sure if I have put this in the right forum - so apologies if I haven't.
I have a very good friend who suffers from Clinical Depression. I know he is prescribed lithium and also an antidepressant for this. To give a bit of background he suffered a breakdown about 8 years ago (before I knew him, we have only been friends for about 3 or 4 years) and he was in hospital for 6 months and off work for 2 years. They kept his job open and he returned to work however during the time he was off he lost his house and was made bankrupt. In the time that I have known him, he has a long term partner (who he met after his breakdown) and he is still working however he has long periods from work with sickness for his depression.
In the past 12 months he has been the worst that I have seen him and hasn't really managed more than 6 weeks back at work before going off again - he is off at the moment and has been since the beginning of May. He thinks that because his illness is covered by DDA they can't really get rid of him. Despite this, him and his partner are buying a house (which they hope to get by the end of the year.
Now for my dilemma - I used to work at the same place as him and someone who works in HR has informed me (I know they shouldn't have and I wished they hadn't) that the company is looking to "get rid of him" as they feel that despite making reasonable adjustments he still cannot manage work. I have no loyalty to the company but I have to him and don't know whether to tell him or not. Part of me wants to keep it to myself because I know it will really stress him out however the other part of me is worried that him and his partner buy this house and then cannot afford it because he loses his job. If I thought that work would sort this out before his partner signs for the house I would keep quiet but I don't think this will happen.
Sorry for such a long first post. Any advice welcome.
x